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CAMHS refuse to take developmental history into account!

MacaroniMum

Hi there,

Can anyone offer any advice on the following;

 

Our daughter is now 12yrs old and almost finished the diagnosis/assessment stage at CAMHS, but right from the start we have had issues with the psychologist not wanting to listen to her behavioural history. I had thought I was imagining it until last week when I asked (for a third time) if we could make a separate appontment without our daughter being present for a session to complete her history. I was told that she had all the information she needed and that no more was required as she was very confidant she knew what the problem was. I reminded her that to date she only had details of my daughter up to age 2yrs and nothing since, but she was adamant that she had everything she needed!!!

I wouldn't mind, but she had already told us that although some people will diagnose Aspergers if it it mild, she said she wont. I am very concerned as we have already been told by the paediatrician (informally) that she has mild Aspergers with Anger Management issues, but if the psychologist wont hear us, she wont be able to make a diagnosis of Aspergers, and without it we are just left with a very angry child and the assumption that we are bad parents!

We have gone to our Gp now, but they wont refer us to anyone else until we have completed the process and then we will have to complain if we disagree with the result. Surely this is just wasting everyones time.

Both my husband and myself are worn out, dealing with unprofessionals, and the constant stress that our daughter causes. The only help offerred so far is anti-depressants for us parents, not quite what we had in mind.

Is this normal, I thought you could be re-referred if you didn't get along with your childs psychologist!

I have absolutely no faith now. She even told us that the ADOS test she did was difinitive and would prove absolutely if our daughter had an ASD or not.

Any advice from other subscribers would be helpful,

 

 

  • Goatworshiper said:
    Charver

    Had to look that term up!

    They're also known as 'Chavs', or just 'Scum', down south.

  • Sorry if my above post seems irrelevant. But I'm just suggesting an approach that might be helpful.

  • My GF has BiPolar and while trying to get her diagnosed he Pyschiatrist (spelling, sorry), he would not listen. What I found helpful was telephoning the then PCT, demanding to speak to a director and not leaving the telephone until one spoke to me.

    I then reminded him of his duty of care and the pyskes duty of care. Mentioned I would be informing the general medical council if that I didnt believed they were carrying out his duty of care and that I would like registration numbers to accurately complain. Mentioned second opinions too.

    Well what was amazing is................an a appointment with a proffessor was made within 2 months, CPN appointment every week etc. 

    I hate confrontation, I truly believe this is why Charver get lots of help (because they kick off). So I took a leaf out of the book of charverdom, worked a treat.

  • MacaroniMum said:
    We have gone to our Gp now, but they wont refer us to anyone else until we have completed the process and then we will have to complain if we disagree with the result. Surely this is just wasting everyones time.

    Yes, yes it is just wasting everyones time.

    However, I'm learning from my Mum (who went through the process of getting a statement for my sister who has Dyslexia, and who is now helping me get the support I need for my Asperger's) that you have to let the system do it's thing, and then when it's failed you, that's when you start the fight.

    Trying to fight it now will only wear you down, because they're an immovable object, and you're not an unstoppable force.

    Let them come to their decision, however wrong it may be, then appeal.

  • Hello M'mum

    Just wanted to say you are not alone with your experiences of CAMHS, they will not listen and they say they are right and you are wrong after knowing a child for less than 20 minutes.

    On the other hand some people think they are amazing, guess it depends on the area.

    YOU SAID "I also have an older daughter who has no ASD and is a joy to be around but is always being attacked by her sister. We all know siblings fight ( I am one of four) but this goes beyond normal."

    Again I totally understand, we have been battling for many years to try and get some harmony in our house.

    Stay strong.

  • Thank you Stranger,

    Sadly No, we've been told we cannot see anyone else until the process is completed.

    I fear all we will be offerred is parenting advice. I already have an army of parenting books which were of no help at all as my daughter has the 'God complex' where she believes she is always right and she doesn't respond to reasoning ever.

     I also have an older daughter who has no ASD and is a joy to be around but is always being attacked by her sister. We all know siblings fight ( I am one of four) but this goes beyond normal.

    Many thanks for your advice though

  • Can you ask to see someone else? I do find it strange that the psychologist thinks information up to the age of 2 is enough. I am currently trying to get diagnosed - in my first appointment, I had to give details of my life now, as well as primary and secondary school. 

    I wonder if you can get counselling or anything for the issues your daughter causes you? There might be classes to help you manage better with your daughters behaviour.