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Helping your child deal with a diagnosis

Mum of boys

So, my almost 13 yr old son was diagnosed yesterday and it's still sinking in.  I feel somehow a sense of relief.  I have know he was ads since he was about 5 But struggled to get a diagnosis.  He was diagnosed as adhd inattentive back then.  His recent struggles with anxiety led me back to camhs and now finally a diagnosis.   But my son does not want to hear the outcome.  Can anyone advise on how they have approached this with an older child?   Currently I am reassuring him that I am here when he wants to talk...which of course probably means little to him as he rarely 'wants' to talk

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  • Thank you for your comments, they are most helpful.  I have had that very conversation with my son,  that he is no different today than he was yesterday and all this does is ensure that he gets any extra help he may want or need in the future.  It really is as much as I can offer at the moment until he feels ready to ask for information and talk.  I do worry that, as you mention, he may be struggling with some strong emotions that he isn't able to communicate.  I have played the whole thing down yesterday (diagnosis +1d) and just continued with life as normal so that he doesn't feel I am overly focussed or tip toeing around it.  I explained on the evening of his diagnosis that I wouldn't be making a big deal of it and so hopefully he realises that I am not ignoring it but only giving him his space. 

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  • Thank you for your comments, they are most helpful.  I have had that very conversation with my son,  that he is no different today than he was yesterday and all this does is ensure that he gets any extra help he may want or need in the future.  It really is as much as I can offer at the moment until he feels ready to ask for information and talk.  I do worry that, as you mention, he may be struggling with some strong emotions that he isn't able to communicate.  I have played the whole thing down yesterday (diagnosis +1d) and just continued with life as normal so that he doesn't feel I am overly focussed or tip toeing around it.  I explained on the evening of his diagnosis that I wouldn't be making a big deal of it and so hopefully he realises that I am not ignoring it but only giving him his space. 

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