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A Strange Mental connection.

Dantheman37

For my entire 17 year life I have been a supporter of Chelsea Football Club. Recently however, I made a mental connection between them and my former crush- who turned out to be a really horrible person who betrayed numerous amounts of people including myself. 

This has resulted in me losing the passion and enthusiasm for supporting the team. I don't know why its happened, or why I made the mental connection between the 2 in the first place. Does anyone else reading this know what I'm going through? Has anyone else evr made a mental conncetion between something you love something you hate, causing you to lose the thing you loved? Or has someone successfully managed to solve this problem? 

If so, could you give me an in depth explanation on how you did it? If not, could anyone give me an idea on how I could solve it? I have been unable to find help anywhere else. 

Feedback would be apprectiated. Thank you very much.

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  • In terms of not as yet being able to stop thinking about the whole thing with her, part of this involves the physiology of your body having been revved-up by hers to make yet more bodies, and it will take some time for it to rev-down in relation to her. 

    Given the time scale you have described, and the season presently - you are quite probably at about the most trying stage of the recovery process right now. This lasts until about spring or summer in a large number of cases. This is essentially a right of passage which most teenagers go through in some way or another quite reluctantly - obviously, but developing and refining a healthy sense of honour and integrity through which is very much the point here.

    In my case, resenting my and or my partners wrong-doings was I found about the most effective way of making myself feel really miserable. I realised that it was healthier by far to mainly recall the good stuff, and be positive about the bad stuff too. By this I mean that I learnt to view all mistakes as being valuable lessons. The thing is not so much to analyse the nature of the relationship, but more instead to use deep-and-slow pelvic breathing to feel and as such work through the emotional issues involved.

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  • In terms of not as yet being able to stop thinking about the whole thing with her, part of this involves the physiology of your body having been revved-up by hers to make yet more bodies, and it will take some time for it to rev-down in relation to her. 

    Given the time scale you have described, and the season presently - you are quite probably at about the most trying stage of the recovery process right now. This lasts until about spring or summer in a large number of cases. This is essentially a right of passage which most teenagers go through in some way or another quite reluctantly - obviously, but developing and refining a healthy sense of honour and integrity through which is very much the point here.

    In my case, resenting my and or my partners wrong-doings was I found about the most effective way of making myself feel really miserable. I realised that it was healthier by far to mainly recall the good stuff, and be positive about the bad stuff too. By this I mean that I learnt to view all mistakes as being valuable lessons. The thing is not so much to analyse the nature of the relationship, but more instead to use deep-and-slow pelvic breathing to feel and as such work through the emotional issues involved.

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