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Help please, where do I start?

amum

I am the mother of a 30 year old son who is currently incredibly stressed. I am afraid he he is heading for a breakdown but not sure what is behind his problems and before seeking treatment need to consider the possibilities to avoid misdiagnois.

He is intelligent and has a degree and MA. He has been self employed since finishing university but not earning a living. As a individual he comes across as outgoing, likeable and incredibly competent, which he is, but as his business ventures have not been unsuccessful, in terms of making enough money to live, I would expected him by now to try something different but he seems obsessed with his vision/dream of being successful in business and lacking in understanding that what he is pursuing is possibly the root of all his stress and anxiety.

I could write a lot more but really need to speak to somebody who can point me in the right direction.

Many thanks

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  • Being self employed and building a business from scratch is very difficult for majority of people. You hear about all the wonderful sucess stories, but not many of the unsucessful which far outweighs the other. At least he is showing determination, and that is a good business quality.

    I have been self employed twice, once as an IT contractor where I was very succesful, although that is not really going it alone. I tried to start up an online toy shop, got it off the ground and a few orders. The only thing that was missing was I couldn't quiet get my rankings in google search results, although I had contacts who could help me with that.

    It withered away as at the same time my mother was losing her battle with cancer, and I had just secured a permanent job just not so long after the dotcom crash at a time when technology was changing.

    Success/Failure can be a very fine line, and some of the ones that do become sucessful, seems like the most ridiculous to start off with.

    I would try and talk to your son, express your feelings and try and get some engaging communication (I'm not crticising your views, and its easy to say this suggestion, but not easy to do).

    I guess it might be an idea to talk about some plan b option, where he can still pursue his focus, but also start to build something else which could become a fallback solution, or both could become sucessful.

    I wish your son all the best

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  • Being self employed and building a business from scratch is very difficult for majority of people. You hear about all the wonderful sucess stories, but not many of the unsucessful which far outweighs the other. At least he is showing determination, and that is a good business quality.

    I have been self employed twice, once as an IT contractor where I was very succesful, although that is not really going it alone. I tried to start up an online toy shop, got it off the ground and a few orders. The only thing that was missing was I couldn't quiet get my rankings in google search results, although I had contacts who could help me with that.

    It withered away as at the same time my mother was losing her battle with cancer, and I had just secured a permanent job just not so long after the dotcom crash at a time when technology was changing.

    Success/Failure can be a very fine line, and some of the ones that do become sucessful, seems like the most ridiculous to start off with.

    I would try and talk to your son, express your feelings and try and get some engaging communication (I'm not crticising your views, and its easy to say this suggestion, but not easy to do).

    I guess it might be an idea to talk about some plan b option, where he can still pursue his focus, but also start to build something else which could become a fallback solution, or both could become sucessful.

    I wish your son all the best

    Random

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