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Struggling with asd & ADHD diagnosis

MCasD

Hi everyone, since my 6 year old sons diagnosis a week ago i am struggling. I am starting to suffer from depression & finding the diagnosis really hard. If feels like the rest of the family are treating it like we have just been told he has the flu or something. They are still treating him exactly the same as tho he is just a naughty child who needs telling off. He is constantly aggressive & fighting his 2yr old brother taking is toys etc..& I don't know how to react to him anymore. Obviously I have to stop him but I don't know how exactly to tell someone off who doesn't have control of himself. He just can't stop himself. Its really getting me down & I can feel it already putting a drift between me & my partner as I don't feel he understands or wants to try to understand the condition & is still shouting & disciplining him the same as always.

I guess what Im asking is who do I turn to? Where do I go? Im thinking I start with the Gp for my depression but what about help with or for my son?

im expecting my third child & I dont know how I will manage. I slowly feel like I'm losing control.

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  • It's hard for other people to understand. Especially if he is high functioning as chances are he may appear average to the unsuspecting person. Have your team who assessed him provided you with a DVD for the family to view to help them understand? Have you allowed family members to read the review report which may help them understand better. I think it's difficult for people to understand another way of looking at the world but it's really important they try. I know how you feel regarding parenting techniques. Sometimes it hard to know what's expected behaviour from a child their age and what's not. It takes a lot of patience and we are only human and also find it hard to control emotions if pushed to the limit by unacceptable behaviour. But patience we must try and have. Perhaps the big impending change of having a new brother or sister is affecting him? Have you tried talking to him about it? Does he open up at all about his feelings in general?  Also from my experience a good telling off doesn't usually help at all. Does he have a particular fixation at the moment that you could use to motivate him in order to overcome difficult situations? 

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  • It's hard for other people to understand. Especially if he is high functioning as chances are he may appear average to the unsuspecting person. Have your team who assessed him provided you with a DVD for the family to view to help them understand? Have you allowed family members to read the review report which may help them understand better. I think it's difficult for people to understand another way of looking at the world but it's really important they try. I know how you feel regarding parenting techniques. Sometimes it hard to know what's expected behaviour from a child their age and what's not. It takes a lot of patience and we are only human and also find it hard to control emotions if pushed to the limit by unacceptable behaviour. But patience we must try and have. Perhaps the big impending change of having a new brother or sister is affecting him? Have you tried talking to him about it? Does he open up at all about his feelings in general?  Also from my experience a good telling off doesn't usually help at all. Does he have a particular fixation at the moment that you could use to motivate him in order to overcome difficult situations? 

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