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Struggling with asd & ADHD diagnosis

MCasD

Hi everyone, since my 6 year old sons diagnosis a week ago i am struggling. I am starting to suffer from depression & finding the diagnosis really hard. If feels like the rest of the family are treating it like we have just been told he has the flu or something. They are still treating him exactly the same as tho he is just a naughty child who needs telling off. He is constantly aggressive & fighting his 2yr old brother taking is toys etc..& I don't know how to react to him anymore. Obviously I have to stop him but I don't know how exactly to tell someone off who doesn't have control of himself. He just can't stop himself. Its really getting me down & I can feel it already putting a drift between me & my partner as I don't feel he understands or wants to try to understand the condition & is still shouting & disciplining him the same as always.

I guess what Im asking is who do I turn to? Where do I go? Im thinking I start with the Gp for my depression but what about help with or for my son?

im expecting my third child & I dont know how I will manage. I slowly feel like I'm losing control.

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  • Thanks for the replies just saying it to somebody feels a relief already. He doesn't go special school & they are also struggling with his behaviour & at the moment we are both (myself & the school) looking to each other for support & ideas on what may help (trial & error if you like) He does have meltdowns as well as difficult behaviour sometimes once he is in a confrontation with his brother its like he zones out he doesn't respond to us  & we have to restrain him or try & remove him from the situation. He is also very physical at school & sometimes not meaning to be (he's very touchy touchy with people) & can't read peoples body language well & so doesn't know when enough is enough or the person is not enjoying a game anymore. I am still telling him off & not letting autism or ADHD be an excuse for his behaviour but at the same time trying to understand or manage the fact that he struggles with following instructions, not touching people or things & his over boisterous energy that usually doesnt end well. Im just so over whelmed with him having asd ADHD & sensory processing difficulties it's hard to manage or find what will help him at his moments of melt downs or difficulties if that makes sense? I'm not always aware 100% of what is upsetting him or triggering the behaviour.

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  • Thanks for the replies just saying it to somebody feels a relief already. He doesn't go special school & they are also struggling with his behaviour & at the moment we are both (myself & the school) looking to each other for support & ideas on what may help (trial & error if you like) He does have meltdowns as well as difficult behaviour sometimes once he is in a confrontation with his brother its like he zones out he doesn't respond to us  & we have to restrain him or try & remove him from the situation. He is also very physical at school & sometimes not meaning to be (he's very touchy touchy with people) & can't read peoples body language well & so doesn't know when enough is enough or the person is not enjoying a game anymore. I am still telling him off & not letting autism or ADHD be an excuse for his behaviour but at the same time trying to understand or manage the fact that he struggles with following instructions, not touching people or things & his over boisterous energy that usually doesnt end well. Im just so over whelmed with him having asd ADHD & sensory processing difficulties it's hard to manage or find what will help him at his moments of melt downs or difficulties if that makes sense? I'm not always aware 100% of what is upsetting him or triggering the behaviour.

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