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My fiancé has Asperges syndrome. Now what?

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Dear All,

My fiancé has recently been officially been diagnosed with Asperges syndrome, we are both in our early 20s. I love him dearly ,but, there are times when his condition has put a strain on us as a couple.  I have completed extensive research into Asperges due to the diagnoses ,but, also out of personal interest. He has it very mild compared to others I have met with the same condition.

I was wondering what advice and support is given for young couples? Who do we need to contact etc?  Also, is anyone in a similar situation?  

Any advice would be much appreciated. 

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  • Hi

    Could I reply as a mum with a teenager (who has not yet been officially diagnosed with Aspergers but I am sure will be next week). 

    I keep  wondering how my son will find a girl who will be as loving as you and care enough to be able to deal with him without getting frustrated and annoyed.  My sons' condition does seem to be mild but nevertheless has caused a lot of anxiety before reading and finding out about Aspergers.  Now that I have done and he himself understands more about the condition things are so much easier at home.

    From my point of view as a Mum my love for him is totally unconditional and my job is to help and care for him but your job as a future wife will be different won't it.  There will be times when you won't understand why he just can't see your way of thinking and you will think he doesn't care and you will have to accept that.

    Of course on the other hand if he is like my son he will give you his last rolo and you will mean everything to him but he may not always tell you that.

    I think if you keep reading about Aspergers and he is prepared to work at dealing with it too, and you love each other you will make it together.  You are going to have to be understanding and sometimes walk away and not get annoyed.  I would embrace it and continue to love him because there are plenty not so nice people in the world and it sounds like you have a lovely man in yours.

    All the best.

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  • Hi

    Could I reply as a mum with a teenager (who has not yet been officially diagnosed with Aspergers but I am sure will be next week). 

    I keep  wondering how my son will find a girl who will be as loving as you and care enough to be able to deal with him without getting frustrated and annoyed.  My sons' condition does seem to be mild but nevertheless has caused a lot of anxiety before reading and finding out about Aspergers.  Now that I have done and he himself understands more about the condition things are so much easier at home.

    From my point of view as a Mum my love for him is totally unconditional and my job is to help and care for him but your job as a future wife will be different won't it.  There will be times when you won't understand why he just can't see your way of thinking and you will think he doesn't care and you will have to accept that.

    Of course on the other hand if he is like my son he will give you his last rolo and you will mean everything to him but he may not always tell you that.

    I think if you keep reading about Aspergers and he is prepared to work at dealing with it too, and you love each other you will make it together.  You are going to have to be understanding and sometimes walk away and not get annoyed.  I would embrace it and continue to love him because there are plenty not so nice people in the world and it sounds like you have a lovely man in yours.

    All the best.

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