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aspertic

hello,

I'm new to this forum. I am 54 years old and have had (yesterday), the first part of a two-stage diagnostic process. 

The consultant was very nice, but I feel quite flat about the whole thing. It was almost like I had to justify myself. I recognise much of the Asperger characteristics and it has helped me understand a lot of my life up to now. The next part of the process takes place in a month and will involve "things to do". I'm not sure what this means. I am feeling anxious about the whole thing now. Another thing to fuel anxiety.

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  • Hi Aspertic

    You wrote: "It was almost like I had to justify myself."

    This is how I have felt so many times in my life when dealing with NT people.

    I'm in my fifties too and recently found out that me and my partner are aspies. We don't have a formal diagnosis - although I was offered one by my GP I decided it wouldn't make any difference to my life and I was wary of having to disclose things to a psychiatrist. But I accept that many people find a formal diagnosis a comfort. I worried at first that people might think I was making it up, but I've grown more confident in my ability to know myself and not care about what other people think. I read comments like yours and instinctively know what it feels like, because our minds work in the same way.

    A couple of books have helped me understand myself and NTs better. They are: "Am I Autistic?" and "A field guide to earthlings - an autistic/asperger view of neurotypical behaviour". Also Ruby Wax's book " Sane new world" gave me ideas about how to deal with panic episodes. All are available on kindle if you're interested.

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  • Hi Aspertic

    You wrote: "It was almost like I had to justify myself."

    This is how I have felt so many times in my life when dealing with NT people.

    I'm in my fifties too and recently found out that me and my partner are aspies. We don't have a formal diagnosis - although I was offered one by my GP I decided it wouldn't make any difference to my life and I was wary of having to disclose things to a psychiatrist. But I accept that many people find a formal diagnosis a comfort. I worried at first that people might think I was making it up, but I've grown more confident in my ability to know myself and not care about what other people think. I read comments like yours and instinctively know what it feels like, because our minds work in the same way.

    A couple of books have helped me understand myself and NTs better. They are: "Am I Autistic?" and "A field guide to earthlings - an autistic/asperger view of neurotypical behaviour". Also Ruby Wax's book " Sane new world" gave me ideas about how to deal with panic episodes. All are available on kindle if you're interested.

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