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Newly diagnosed.

Harrysbatmum

After what seems like a life time, in reality 12 months we have a diagnosis for our 4 year old son. We found out yesterday so I'm feeling very lost. I know this doesn't change our funny, intelligent & loving little man. 

I'm relieved we have some answers & can get support for our little man at school in September. On the other hands I feel incrediably guilty, have I done something to cause this, could I have done something differently? What will the diagnosis mean for him, have we set him up for a difficult life? 

Can people advise me on what to do now? We've been told to arrange his DLA etc but what can de physically do? Family life is complicated his paternal grandfather lives with us & has dementia, as well as a 2 year old sister. 

Any help would be appreciated I'm not as okay as I thought.

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  • Former Member
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    BBB799 said:

     you shouldn't blame yourself

    As I said before, there is no blame in this.

    There is one point to learn though and that is that someone who does not realise that they have traits has the potential to be a very bad parent. Some of the adults on this site have been brought up by very unsympathetic parents who did not realise that their traits were making them into bad parents. I am not suggesting that any of the parents on this thread are bad parents - you are all concerned about the well being of your little ones - but everyone can benefit from understanding themselves better. Have a look at this thread community.autism.org.uk/.../could-my-son-have-form-austim for a bit more about this topic. (That thread isn't about being a bad parent, it's about being unaware of traits)

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  • Former Member
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    BBB799 said:

     you shouldn't blame yourself

    As I said before, there is no blame in this.

    There is one point to learn though and that is that someone who does not realise that they have traits has the potential to be a very bad parent. Some of the adults on this site have been brought up by very unsympathetic parents who did not realise that their traits were making them into bad parents. I am not suggesting that any of the parents on this thread are bad parents - you are all concerned about the well being of your little ones - but everyone can benefit from understanding themselves better. Have a look at this thread community.autism.org.uk/.../could-my-son-have-form-austim for a bit more about this topic. (That thread isn't about being a bad parent, it's about being unaware of traits)

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