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Newly diagnosed.

Harrysbatmum

After what seems like a life time, in reality 12 months we have a diagnosis for our 4 year old son. We found out yesterday so I'm feeling very lost. I know this doesn't change our funny, intelligent & loving little man. 

I'm relieved we have some answers & can get support for our little man at school in September. On the other hands I feel incrediably guilty, have I done something to cause this, could I have done something differently? What will the diagnosis mean for him, have we set him up for a difficult life? 

Can people advise me on what to do now? We've been told to arrange his DLA etc but what can de physically do? Family life is complicated his paternal grandfather lives with us & has dementia, as well as a 2 year old sister. 

Any help would be appreciated I'm not as okay as I thought.

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    You should look into the earlybird scheme www.autism.org.uk/earlybird

    You should also get to grips with being positive and consistent with him. People with autism respond well to positive reinforcement (much more emphasis on 'carrots' to reward good behaviours than on 'sticks' to correct bad behavious). We also get confused if you say one thing today and then something different tomorrow. If you need to make a decision then don't make a snap decision but make a decision that makes sense to him and that you can follow through with - if you promise him something then don't disappoint him.

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    You should look into the earlybird scheme www.autism.org.uk/earlybird

    You should also get to grips with being positive and consistent with him. People with autism respond well to positive reinforcement (much more emphasis on 'carrots' to reward good behaviours than on 'sticks' to correct bad behavious). We also get confused if you say one thing today and then something different tomorrow. If you need to make a decision then don't make a snap decision but make a decision that makes sense to him and that you can follow through with - if you promise him something then don't disappoint him.

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