Daughter Refusing Diagnosis

I hope somebody may have some advice about this. I suspect that my daughter 15 years old may have aspergers. We have seen a specialist (9 month wait) who has said that there is a strong possibility of aspergers but needed more investigation for full diagnosis however as there were some mental health problems we would have to see Camhs (another 6 month wait). Now we seem to have hit a road block to get the full diagnosis my daughter has to agree. Well, my daughter doesn't agree to anything. I dragged her to first appointment, second appointment she agreed to go if a bought her a new online TV series  but said to Camhs that she didn't want to be there.  She refuses to entertain the idea that she may have aspergers calling it insulting.  I really don't understand how a child has the final say. After all we are expected to force them to go to school why is this different, how come I am no longer the responsible adult? On the other side am I doing the right thing if she doesn't want it, everything I have read said it can help and I am very worried about her.

Does anybody have any experience of advice about this?

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  • I think you are right. My need to try and control the situation is not helping her but she never asks for help just tries to deal with it herself. I think deep down she knows she's a bit different but has spent a long time trying to fit in so feels she doesn't need any help from useless adults. I bought some books that I thought would help her feel, its not a bad thing just a different thing, but she won't even have them in her room. How would you approach letting her decide for herself?

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  • I think you are right. My need to try and control the situation is not helping her but she never asks for help just tries to deal with it herself. I think deep down she knows she's a bit different but has spent a long time trying to fit in so feels she doesn't need any help from useless adults. I bought some books that I thought would help her feel, its not a bad thing just a different thing, but she won't even have them in her room. How would you approach letting her decide for herself?

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