Daughter Refusing Diagnosis

I hope somebody may have some advice about this. I suspect that my daughter 15 years old may have aspergers. We have seen a specialist (9 month wait) who has said that there is a strong possibility of aspergers but needed more investigation for full diagnosis however as there were some mental health problems we would have to see Camhs (another 6 month wait). Now we seem to have hit a road block to get the full diagnosis my daughter has to agree. Well, my daughter doesn't agree to anything. I dragged her to first appointment, second appointment she agreed to go if a bought her a new online TV series  but said to Camhs that she didn't want to be there.  She refuses to entertain the idea that she may have aspergers calling it insulting.  I really don't understand how a child has the final say. After all we are expected to force them to go to school why is this different, how come I am no longer the responsible adult? On the other side am I doing the right thing if she doesn't want it, everything I have read said it can help and I am very worried about her.

Does anybody have any experience of advice about this?

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  • I totally get that it's her life and I have read about the definance position but I think she is really struggling to cope and I'm worried that if I don't do something it will get worse. We don't fight or disagree on most things I let her get on with things her way, I've learnt not to try and change her position, it doesn't make any difference anyhow and she's a really lovely kid. Is that the right thing to do or am i just letting her get away with doing what she wants? The TV series was her idea not mine.

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  • I totally get that it's her life and I have read about the definance position but I think she is really struggling to cope and I'm worried that if I don't do something it will get worse. We don't fight or disagree on most things I let her get on with things her way, I've learnt not to try and change her position, it doesn't make any difference anyhow and she's a really lovely kid. Is that the right thing to do or am i just letting her get away with doing what she wants? The TV series was her idea not mine.

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