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Feelings after diagnosis

chuckalicious

I, I've posted here before but since my last post I have had my asd assessment amd have all but been formally diagnosed as being on the spectrum and specifically aspergic. I have one more form to complete for my next apappointment but the person who did the assess!sent said she was certain but still needed that questionnaire done. 

Now, I've always known that I was different and that I was pretty sure I was going to be told I was on the spectrum. 

However, I had always imagined the diagnos would be a relief, allowing me to go a bit easier on myself. 

But now that I am at that point, I don't feel that at all. If anything I'm now questioning if the diagnosis is right, am I a fraud etc. My anxiety just will not give me a break. 

She also asked where I wanted to go from here. She gave me the contact details for a service which specifically helps adults with autism with things like social skills training to finding a job. And now I'm asking myself, where do I want to go with this? Do I want to get better at making lasting friendships or do I want to allow myself to be happy with how things are and not chasing somethin that inevitably won't be good for me. 

Has anyone else gone through anything like this?

I should add I'm male, 35 and married with 2 kids, who I look after full time at home. 

Thank you

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    If you have got to this point then you are not a fraud. They do not diagnose people easily and a lot of people are denied a diagnosis even though they are clearly on the spectrum. It is actually common to have this fear - autistic people often have had a lot of confidence knocked out of them over the years so they are typically unsure of themselves in a lot of ways.

    Edit: Have a look at these threads from previous posters. The fear of being a fraud comes up regularly community.autism.org.uk/.../"a fraud"

    I was diagnosed two years ago but have just managed to get on a post-diagnosis course. I would strongly recommend that you go along with whatever they are offering - you will then have the option to ignore or accept their advice and help. If you don't go along then you might always wonder whether it might have helped you. Again, it is common for people to be reticent and anxious about attending such things - it won't hurt and it is likely to be good for you.

    You should go easy on yourself, it is easy to blame oneself or others for the situations we find ourselves in. Actually this is a thing that just happens to people and noone is to blame. I'm sure you actually a nice honest person who just wants to do their best - I'm not just saying that, these are the normal traits of people with autism - we are honest folk - too honest for our own good sometimes!

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    If you have got to this point then you are not a fraud. They do not diagnose people easily and a lot of people are denied a diagnosis even though they are clearly on the spectrum. It is actually common to have this fear - autistic people often have had a lot of confidence knocked out of them over the years so they are typically unsure of themselves in a lot of ways.

    Edit: Have a look at these threads from previous posters. The fear of being a fraud comes up regularly community.autism.org.uk/.../"a fraud"

    I was diagnosed two years ago but have just managed to get on a post-diagnosis course. I would strongly recommend that you go along with whatever they are offering - you will then have the option to ignore or accept their advice and help. If you don't go along then you might always wonder whether it might have helped you. Again, it is common for people to be reticent and anxious about attending such things - it won't hurt and it is likely to be good for you.

    You should go easy on yourself, it is easy to blame oneself or others for the situations we find ourselves in. Actually this is a thing that just happens to people and noone is to blame. I'm sure you actually a nice honest person who just wants to do their best - I'm not just saying that, these are the normal traits of people with autism - we are honest folk - too honest for our own good sometimes!

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