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Angela1181

Hey everyone :)

Im looking for some feedback before i take my 7 year old daughter to GP.

I feel like I'm at my wits end with my eldest of 2 girls. I'm not really sure how to move forward and really help her. I suspect that she is somewhere on the spectrum for aspergers, the school have not really been much help and i feel because she is a girl that these things are being put down to her nature.

* No eye contact when conversing (she will when you remind her but looks uncomfortable).

* Absolutely obssesed with horses as in if she dosn't mention them at least once an hour it's a miracle, she knows alot about them however is frightened of them in "real life". Her play-time and free time is only about playing horsey games etc. As stupid as it sounds after 4 years of this its one of the things that tire's me out the most.

* No social skills with children her own age, its almost like she dosn't know how to act. Also because of the above obsession alot of children do not want to play with her. This usually leads to them laughing at her etc having a huge effect of self esteem. No real friends at school.

* Never looks happy to see you, dosnt come running up like other kids at school shouting "mummy" dosn't say hello or goodbye in any situation unless prompted.

* Very rarely acknowledges people (adults and children) if they call her name, spends alot of time "zoned out" as i call it.

* Dosn't look like she is enjoying going out anywhere (fireworks, funfair, a show, days out etc) loud noises seem to affect her, she says she has enjoyed it afterwards almost like at the time its too much to take in.

* She pulls strange facial expressions, by this i mean the expression dosn't seem to fit the situation.

* Extremely under confident, too self aware, afraid of everthing, lack of co-ordination.

* Severe lack of concentration, she cant follow more than 1 instruction at a time.

There are other things but i feel these are affecting her the most. All my efforts so far have failed to help her and if anything i feel it's getting worse. I know none of you can diagnose her, i'd just like some feedback and some info before i go along to the GP.

Thank you for taking the time to read this.

Angela x

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  • Hi new here but seems same old story, the diagnosis saga, I think GP's need more education in this field ASD is just that a spectrum which by definition means a broad variety. My son is 9 he has never spoken a word and still has to wear nappies, has no sense of fear or danger which means we all live in a constant state of lock down or he will climb out of windows etc. also has other what you would call standard autistic traits but get this bit it took 3 years of being in a special needs school with all his teachers saying its ASD for the "specialist" to finally give the diagnosis because........he recognised us with a smile whenever we came to pick him up from school. Unreal. I have coached football to ASD kiddies for 3 years and I can tell you not one was the same as the next. Spectrum....... Also because of this "specialist" he had to endure about 15-20 different "specialists" from neurologists to geneticists. MRI scans all blank. 

    So rant over my advice is this you know your kids so follow your gut and your heart it is tough but as equally rewarding as any child, you have to do whatever works for you in dealing with a situation, oh and NEVER TAKE NO FOR AN ANSWER, push push push badger badger badger. 

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  • Hi new here but seems same old story, the diagnosis saga, I think GP's need more education in this field ASD is just that a spectrum which by definition means a broad variety. My son is 9 he has never spoken a word and still has to wear nappies, has no sense of fear or danger which means we all live in a constant state of lock down or he will climb out of windows etc. also has other what you would call standard autistic traits but get this bit it took 3 years of being in a special needs school with all his teachers saying its ASD for the "specialist" to finally give the diagnosis because........he recognised us with a smile whenever we came to pick him up from school. Unreal. I have coached football to ASD kiddies for 3 years and I can tell you not one was the same as the next. Spectrum....... Also because of this "specialist" he had to endure about 15-20 different "specialists" from neurologists to geneticists. MRI scans all blank. 

    So rant over my advice is this you know your kids so follow your gut and your heart it is tough but as equally rewarding as any child, you have to do whatever works for you in dealing with a situation, oh and NEVER TAKE NO FOR AN ANSWER, push push push badger badger badger. 

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