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Angela1181

Hey everyone :)

Im looking for some feedback before i take my 7 year old daughter to GP.

I feel like I'm at my wits end with my eldest of 2 girls. I'm not really sure how to move forward and really help her. I suspect that she is somewhere on the spectrum for aspergers, the school have not really been much help and i feel because she is a girl that these things are being put down to her nature.

* No eye contact when conversing (she will when you remind her but looks uncomfortable).

* Absolutely obssesed with horses as in if she dosn't mention them at least once an hour it's a miracle, she knows alot about them however is frightened of them in "real life". Her play-time and free time is only about playing horsey games etc. As stupid as it sounds after 4 years of this its one of the things that tire's me out the most.

* No social skills with children her own age, its almost like she dosn't know how to act. Also because of the above obsession alot of children do not want to play with her. This usually leads to them laughing at her etc having a huge effect of self esteem. No real friends at school.

* Never looks happy to see you, dosnt come running up like other kids at school shouting "mummy" dosn't say hello or goodbye in any situation unless prompted.

* Very rarely acknowledges people (adults and children) if they call her name, spends alot of time "zoned out" as i call it.

* Dosn't look like she is enjoying going out anywhere (fireworks, funfair, a show, days out etc) loud noises seem to affect her, she says she has enjoyed it afterwards almost like at the time its too much to take in.

* She pulls strange facial expressions, by this i mean the expression dosn't seem to fit the situation.

* Extremely under confident, too self aware, afraid of everthing, lack of co-ordination.

* Severe lack of concentration, she cant follow more than 1 instruction at a time.

There are other things but i feel these are affecting her the most. All my efforts so far have failed to help her and if anything i feel it's getting worse. I know none of you can diagnose her, i'd just like some feedback and some info before i go along to the GP.

Thank you for taking the time to read this.

Angela x

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  • hey Angela,

    My son is 6 years old and was first referred to the doctors by his nursery age 3.. I was told at this point my son needed love and attention which was causing his behaviour (I was pregnant with my second son at the time) I was devastated but took the doctors word for it.

    I struggeld on for a few more years then last year I spoke with my health visitor whom advised me to contact the school nurse as the school nurse would be able to get a referral quicker than the healthvisitor/doctor. I also went direct to the school and asked them to make a referral. I then got together a diary of about 12weeks and wrote a letter to my doctor with all the history and every single symptom I had noticed in my son and all my concerns. My son likes to line things up, toy bricks, cd's books you name it, I included pictures of these and examples of his obsessions (Mario, Whales etc) This ended up being a great big pile of information and the receptionist at the doctorslooked slightly shocked when I asked for it to be handed to my doctor and an appointment booked for two weeks time to discuss!

    Getting all this paperwork together took alot of time and effort buthas helped me so much, I handed all the information I had put together in to my doctor and was promised a referal. I had an appointment come through the post to meet the peaditrician 10.01.2012 and my concerns were orginaly Aspergers but was advised my son shows signs of ASD, ADHD,Aspergers and Dyspraxia! Peadiatrician is now writing letters to my doctor and the school to confirm.

    My best advice would be to write a diary on your daughter, this was the best advice the school nurse gave me as it helped to identify triggers for certain beaviours in my son. Pedeatrician has also took copies of all my paperwork to aid his diagnosis. To add it also turnt out that it was the school nurse who had got the apointment with the pedeatrician and not my doctor. Have you tried contacting the school nurse for your school or healthvisitor? Goodluck with it all, I am still in the early stages and have only just jumped the first hurdle of getting that key appointment but  definately took a lot of pushing.  Diary is a big help,I highlighted the parts which I thought were relevant.

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  • hey Angela,

    My son is 6 years old and was first referred to the doctors by his nursery age 3.. I was told at this point my son needed love and attention which was causing his behaviour (I was pregnant with my second son at the time) I was devastated but took the doctors word for it.

    I struggeld on for a few more years then last year I spoke with my health visitor whom advised me to contact the school nurse as the school nurse would be able to get a referral quicker than the healthvisitor/doctor. I also went direct to the school and asked them to make a referral. I then got together a diary of about 12weeks and wrote a letter to my doctor with all the history and every single symptom I had noticed in my son and all my concerns. My son likes to line things up, toy bricks, cd's books you name it, I included pictures of these and examples of his obsessions (Mario, Whales etc) This ended up being a great big pile of information and the receptionist at the doctorslooked slightly shocked when I asked for it to be handed to my doctor and an appointment booked for two weeks time to discuss!

    Getting all this paperwork together took alot of time and effort buthas helped me so much, I handed all the information I had put together in to my doctor and was promised a referal. I had an appointment come through the post to meet the peaditrician 10.01.2012 and my concerns were orginaly Aspergers but was advised my son shows signs of ASD, ADHD,Aspergers and Dyspraxia! Peadiatrician is now writing letters to my doctor and the school to confirm.

    My best advice would be to write a diary on your daughter, this was the best advice the school nurse gave me as it helped to identify triggers for certain beaviours in my son. Pedeatrician has also took copies of all my paperwork to aid his diagnosis. To add it also turnt out that it was the school nurse who had got the apointment with the pedeatrician and not my doctor. Have you tried contacting the school nurse for your school or healthvisitor? Goodluck with it all, I am still in the early stages and have only just jumped the first hurdle of getting that key appointment but  definately took a lot of pushing.  Diary is a big help,I highlighted the parts which I thought were relevant.

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