Some General Advice

Hey everyone :)

Im looking for some feedback before i take my 7 year old daughter to GP.

I feel like I'm at my wits end with my eldest of 2 girls. I'm not really sure how to move forward and really help her. I suspect that she is somewhere on the spectrum for aspergers, the school have not really been much help and i feel because she is a girl that these things are being put down to her nature.

* No eye contact when conversing (she will when you remind her but looks uncomfortable).

* Absolutely obssesed with horses as in if she dosn't mention them at least once an hour it's a miracle, she knows alot about them however is frightened of them in "real life". Her play-time and free time is only about playing horsey games etc. As stupid as it sounds after 4 years of this its one of the things that tire's me out the most.

* No social skills with children her own age, its almost like she dosn't know how to act. Also because of the above obsession alot of children do not want to play with her. This usually leads to them laughing at her etc having a huge effect of self esteem. No real friends at school.

* Never looks happy to see you, dosnt come running up like other kids at school shouting "mummy" dosn't say hello or goodbye in any situation unless prompted.

* Very rarely acknowledges people (adults and children) if they call her name, spends alot of time "zoned out" as i call it.

* Dosn't look like she is enjoying going out anywhere (fireworks, funfair, a show, days out etc) loud noises seem to affect her, she says she has enjoyed it afterwards almost like at the time its too much to take in.

* She pulls strange facial expressions, by this i mean the expression dosn't seem to fit the situation.

* Extremely under confident, too self aware, afraid of everthing, lack of co-ordination.

* Severe lack of concentration, she cant follow more than 1 instruction at a time.

There are other things but i feel these are affecting her the most. All my efforts so far have failed to help her and if anything i feel it's getting worse. I know none of you can diagnose her, i'd just like some feedback and some info before i go along to the GP.

Thank you for taking the time to read this.

Angela x

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  • Hi please go to your GP and ask for help now. My daughter is 12 and just going through assessment. We see the Child Psychologist next week so will hopefully get our diagnosis.

    My daughter has always been obsessed by animals for as long as I can remember. She has a particular love of dogs. When she was small she was convinced she was going to grow up to be a Dalmation, she even wanted to wee in the back garden because that's what dogs do!

    She has had problems with sleep, meltdowns and sensory issues with clothing all of her life. However she is academic and always appeared fine at school. We always thought these were things she'd grow out of, but never has.

    We started to see some deterioration last year as she headed towards adolescence and went to our GP for help, he refered us to CAMHS. However the CAMHS service fobbed us off and fobbed us off, I think some of this was due to the fact that school were still saying there were no issues.

    She started comp last September and we have seen a huge decline in her wellbeing, she has really struggled. Her sensory issues have become much worse, her temper/meltdowns have been horrendous and she's suffered huge amounts of anxiety.

    We've been lucky because the SENCO at her new school has been fantastic and has an excellent understanding of ASD, she's pushed my daughters case with CAMHS which is why they're finally taking notice of us.

    If you feel their are issues with your daughter, please don't leave it like we did. There's nothing worse than seeing your child deteriorate in front of your eyes. Push for help and if you get fobbed off push some more. You know your child best and don't let anyone tell you different

    Good luck

    Andrea

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  • Hi please go to your GP and ask for help now. My daughter is 12 and just going through assessment. We see the Child Psychologist next week so will hopefully get our diagnosis.

    My daughter has always been obsessed by animals for as long as I can remember. She has a particular love of dogs. When she was small she was convinced she was going to grow up to be a Dalmation, she even wanted to wee in the back garden because that's what dogs do!

    She has had problems with sleep, meltdowns and sensory issues with clothing all of her life. However she is academic and always appeared fine at school. We always thought these were things she'd grow out of, but never has.

    We started to see some deterioration last year as she headed towards adolescence and went to our GP for help, he refered us to CAMHS. However the CAMHS service fobbed us off and fobbed us off, I think some of this was due to the fact that school were still saying there were no issues.

    She started comp last September and we have seen a huge decline in her wellbeing, she has really struggled. Her sensory issues have become much worse, her temper/meltdowns have been horrendous and she's suffered huge amounts of anxiety.

    We've been lucky because the SENCO at her new school has been fantastic and has an excellent understanding of ASD, she's pushed my daughters case with CAMHS which is why they're finally taking notice of us.

    If you feel their are issues with your daughter, please don't leave it like we did. There's nothing worse than seeing your child deteriorate in front of your eyes. Push for help and if you get fobbed off push some more. You know your child best and don't let anyone tell you different

    Good luck

    Andrea

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