Some General Advice

Hey everyone :)

Im looking for some feedback before i take my 7 year old daughter to GP.

I feel like I'm at my wits end with my eldest of 2 girls. I'm not really sure how to move forward and really help her. I suspect that she is somewhere on the spectrum for aspergers, the school have not really been much help and i feel because she is a girl that these things are being put down to her nature.

* No eye contact when conversing (she will when you remind her but looks uncomfortable).

* Absolutely obssesed with horses as in if she dosn't mention them at least once an hour it's a miracle, she knows alot about them however is frightened of them in "real life". Her play-time and free time is only about playing horsey games etc. As stupid as it sounds after 4 years of this its one of the things that tire's me out the most.

* No social skills with children her own age, its almost like she dosn't know how to act. Also because of the above obsession alot of children do not want to play with her. This usually leads to them laughing at her etc having a huge effect of self esteem. No real friends at school.

* Never looks happy to see you, dosnt come running up like other kids at school shouting "mummy" dosn't say hello or goodbye in any situation unless prompted.

* Very rarely acknowledges people (adults and children) if they call her name, spends alot of time "zoned out" as i call it.

* Dosn't look like she is enjoying going out anywhere (fireworks, funfair, a show, days out etc) loud noises seem to affect her, she says she has enjoyed it afterwards almost like at the time its too much to take in.

* She pulls strange facial expressions, by this i mean the expression dosn't seem to fit the situation.

* Extremely under confident, too self aware, afraid of everthing, lack of co-ordination.

* Severe lack of concentration, she cant follow more than 1 instruction at a time.

There are other things but i feel these are affecting her the most. All my efforts so far have failed to help her and if anything i feel it's getting worse. I know none of you can diagnose her, i'd just like some feedback and some info before i go along to the GP.

Thank you for taking the time to read this.

Angela x

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  • Hi Angela

    My son is 10 and I went to the GP a couple of months ago about his challenging behaviour.  He is fairly OK in school and the school are no help with his diagnosed dyslexia. Today we had a 2 hour appointment with a psychologist which I feel was very productive and he is being referred to a unit that deals with social communication (I forget the name of the unit). She has also referred him to a paediatritian because of his lack of co-ordination.

    My advice is that it doesn't really matter what is wrong so long as she gets help for her specific needs and difficulties. Go to the GP and just explain your concerns and asked to be referred to CAMHS (Child and Adolescent Mental Health Services) if the GP doesn't automatically suggest it. It is a long process so get in there ASAP.

    I'm so glad I went as they are now going to talk to the school about his problems as the school doesn't understand them.  This could happen in your daughter's case too.

    Good luck!

     

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  • Hi Angela

    My son is 10 and I went to the GP a couple of months ago about his challenging behaviour.  He is fairly OK in school and the school are no help with his diagnosed dyslexia. Today we had a 2 hour appointment with a psychologist which I feel was very productive and he is being referred to a unit that deals with social communication (I forget the name of the unit). She has also referred him to a paediatritian because of his lack of co-ordination.

    My advice is that it doesn't really matter what is wrong so long as she gets help for her specific needs and difficulties. Go to the GP and just explain your concerns and asked to be referred to CAMHS (Child and Adolescent Mental Health Services) if the GP doesn't automatically suggest it. It is a long process so get in there ASAP.

    I'm so glad I went as they are now going to talk to the school about his problems as the school doesn't understand them.  This could happen in your daughter's case too.

    Good luck!

     

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