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Angela1181

Hey everyone :)

Im looking for some feedback before i take my 7 year old daughter to GP.

I feel like I'm at my wits end with my eldest of 2 girls. I'm not really sure how to move forward and really help her. I suspect that she is somewhere on the spectrum for aspergers, the school have not really been much help and i feel because she is a girl that these things are being put down to her nature.

* No eye contact when conversing (she will when you remind her but looks uncomfortable).

* Absolutely obssesed with horses as in if she dosn't mention them at least once an hour it's a miracle, she knows alot about them however is frightened of them in "real life". Her play-time and free time is only about playing horsey games etc. As stupid as it sounds after 4 years of this its one of the things that tire's me out the most.

* No social skills with children her own age, its almost like she dosn't know how to act. Also because of the above obsession alot of children do not want to play with her. This usually leads to them laughing at her etc having a huge effect of self esteem. No real friends at school.

* Never looks happy to see you, dosnt come running up like other kids at school shouting "mummy" dosn't say hello or goodbye in any situation unless prompted.

* Very rarely acknowledges people (adults and children) if they call her name, spends alot of time "zoned out" as i call it.

* Dosn't look like she is enjoying going out anywhere (fireworks, funfair, a show, days out etc) loud noises seem to affect her, she says she has enjoyed it afterwards almost like at the time its too much to take in.

* She pulls strange facial expressions, by this i mean the expression dosn't seem to fit the situation.

* Extremely under confident, too self aware, afraid of everthing, lack of co-ordination.

* Severe lack of concentration, she cant follow more than 1 instruction at a time.

There are other things but i feel these are affecting her the most. All my efforts so far have failed to help her and if anything i feel it's getting worse. I know none of you can diagnose her, i'd just like some feedback and some info before i go along to the GP.

Thank you for taking the time to read this.

Angela x

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  • Hiya, I'm Katie. I'm 17 and was diagnosed with Aspergers late last year.

    I was a lot like your daughter, only I'm more into dragons/bats than horses, generally I'm a tomboy. But it took me reffering myself to the GP for OCD after a breakdown to eventually get diagnosed.

    It does sound like she has a lot of the traits, but don't expect help from the school. According to the psychologist that diagnosed me, my 'mini breakdowns' at primary where I would scream, kick, refuse to eat etc when moved into a new part of the school (from nursery to reception, from infants to juniors AND when the two were merged into a primary) were big hints, however the teacher (who was also 'head' of SEN) just thought I was being difficult purely because I've always been an academic student.

    Word of warning: Many GP's probably won't be fully aware of what Aspergers/Autism really is, so press the matter, because a) girls display different 'trait's' to boys with aspergers/ASD and b) many haven't actually been trained or taught about recognising it.

    Don't mean to sound negative just wanted to give you a warning in advance. :)

    Hope things work out for you.

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  • Hiya, I'm Katie. I'm 17 and was diagnosed with Aspergers late last year.

    I was a lot like your daughter, only I'm more into dragons/bats than horses, generally I'm a tomboy. But it took me reffering myself to the GP for OCD after a breakdown to eventually get diagnosed.

    It does sound like she has a lot of the traits, but don't expect help from the school. According to the psychologist that diagnosed me, my 'mini breakdowns' at primary where I would scream, kick, refuse to eat etc when moved into a new part of the school (from nursery to reception, from infants to juniors AND when the two were merged into a primary) were big hints, however the teacher (who was also 'head' of SEN) just thought I was being difficult purely because I've always been an academic student.

    Word of warning: Many GP's probably won't be fully aware of what Aspergers/Autism really is, so press the matter, because a) girls display different 'trait's' to boys with aspergers/ASD and b) many haven't actually been trained or taught about recognising it.

    Don't mean to sound negative just wanted to give you a warning in advance. :)

    Hope things work out for you.

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