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Anger Management book advice please

Profsparks

Hi all.

A couple of weeks ago I was diagnosed with ASD, I'm 51 in April.

It explains almost everything, yet changes almost nothing.

I divorced my wife of thirteen years last July, and am finding it hard to deal with my residual anger toward her. I see my kids occasionally, but as they remain a link to her, I'm afraid they will get the brunt of my feelings.

Can anyone recommend a book on how to think round my issues please?

There seems to be a wide range of literature available to choose from, but too much choice is too much.

Thanks in advance

Steve

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  • Hi Profsparks,

    you may find this webpage useful: www.angermanage.co.uk/anger-management-books.html

    They specialise in anger management and list a number of books that may be useful.

    i am not sure if it is any consolation, but I know how you feel to a degree. I have had a terrible time the past few years with the loss of my father, loss of several close friends, loss of someone I loved who didn't love me in return, then lost my job. Too much loss which resulted in a large amount of anger.

    My method of dealing with it is to find a safe outlet for the angry feelings when they rise, like exercising manically ( I cycle or use a treadmill), listen to my favourite music (very loud!), or break some glass bottles at a recycling centre. I have even resorted to a frantic but thorough cleaning of the house. 

    Once the heat of the anger and energy dissipates, I find that I can think more clearly and somewhat rationally. At that stage if I still feel residual anger or irritation towards someone, I write them a very nasty letter but don't send/email it.

    As Clovis said, this is just a stage and if you can move forward in life and put some time and distance between you and the events that led to your anger, hopefully you will find some peace. I am just getting to that point after two years, so just keep putting one foot in front of the other and doing the best you can.

    You will get there, I am sure.

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  • Hi Profsparks,

    you may find this webpage useful: www.angermanage.co.uk/anger-management-books.html

    They specialise in anger management and list a number of books that may be useful.

    i am not sure if it is any consolation, but I know how you feel to a degree. I have had a terrible time the past few years with the loss of my father, loss of several close friends, loss of someone I loved who didn't love me in return, then lost my job. Too much loss which resulted in a large amount of anger.

    My method of dealing with it is to find a safe outlet for the angry feelings when they rise, like exercising manically ( I cycle or use a treadmill), listen to my favourite music (very loud!), or break some glass bottles at a recycling centre. I have even resorted to a frantic but thorough cleaning of the house. 

    Once the heat of the anger and energy dissipates, I find that I can think more clearly and somewhat rationally. At that stage if I still feel residual anger or irritation towards someone, I write them a very nasty letter but don't send/email it.

    As Clovis said, this is just a stage and if you can move forward in life and put some time and distance between you and the events that led to your anger, hopefully you will find some peace. I am just getting to that point after two years, so just keep putting one foot in front of the other and doing the best you can.

    You will get there, I am sure.

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