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Harassment from neighbours

nicolall
I am a parent and carer to my 24-year-old autistic son who is autistic and has mental health issues.
The new neighbours moved in in August. They have been making loud noises during anti-social times and also persistenly during the day, so you get no break from it. An autistic is living on his nerves. To escape them, we have been sleeping in the cemetery, but because this woman has crutches and the husband is a full-time carer, the police feel sorry for her. Myself and an autistic have been put down as the problem.
We've now had it with the neighbour reporting us to the council for crossing the grass verge which is classed as illegal. So, now I can't park on my driveway, which I have done for 10 years in my council property, because I will get a £1,000 fine, or I need to pay £1,000 to get the kerb dropped, even though I know that we have got to move. This has been like a final nail in the coffin to see an autistic go down so much, constantly ill and tired. The council aren't sympathetic, even the autism department. The police have been horrible to us. When I complained about the police, the sergeant phoned me up really offhand. When I said "I suppose it would solve everyone's problems if we moved". He said "Yeah". I feel so alone. I'm already worried about all these benefit cuts, and I am worried how much more I can cope with and also a high-functioning autistic but who is vulnerable.

  • There are many people that have to suffer loud rude neighbors. I myself have had this problem for years during my stay in London. I work full time so I have to make sure I am mentally fit to work and fund my bills. With all of the stress I had to put up with it has put me into a lot of debt.

    Rather than keep fighting with rude people i had to just keep moving and lose all of my deposits.

    I have Aspergers and NOT ONCE did I make that a reason for a person to refrain from making noise. That is something a person should do anyway.

    It worries me that you refer to your son and 'An autistic rather than 'A person who has Autism.'

    Do you know the women with crutches ?  

    My mother and father have worked hard all their lives and never had anything given to them from the council like a house. Unfortunately, my mother had to have 2 major knee operations that went wrong and left her unfit to walk very far without being in pain. My dad has to work over 80+ hours a week to cover bills.  they get no help at all. 

    So what if her husband is a full-time carer. Some of the weakest people put up a strong front. she may need him there for reasons you do not know. she may have lost someone in her life that you do not know about ect.

    My advice would be to just move. A house is just a shell and why prolong the suffering? You have to think about your son. I'm sure he would be more relaxed if you were also.


    This was in no way a did at you. Maybe chose your wording better and it drew more focus on money and the house. 

     

  • sorry for your problems but i do find it derogatory to refer to your son as "an autistic", surely he is your son first and autistic second not just a disability.

    If you want to move who dont you look on the council swap list and see who wants to swap with you.

    If they are making loud noises you could get environmental health from the council or the council housing enforcement officers involved. The price of a dropped kerb is the same for everyone. I have asked for a dropped kerb so i can get my wheelchair into the house and been told the same thing.