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Ok in school so.....................

mumof4boys772

So this evening after having a huge huge meltdown in supermarket and threatening to kill himself in front of everyone and asking people to come kill him and getting home and him wanting to kill himself I once again took my son to a&e.

So because my son is ok in school and not at home the lady that spoke to me said its controlled behaviour and mentioned a parenting course!!!!!!!

So I totally give up now! I have had enough!

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  • Autistic kids and adults often mask behaviour when at school or the work-place. This is an adaptive coping strategy. The problem is that others then assume the person is coping and that any behaviour they later show is deliberate. This shows a complete lack of understanding. The person bottles up all their emotions and then releases them where they feel safe, usually at home or with family. I reckon the supermarket was the last straw for your son. Supermarkets can be overwhelming places - they are noisy, and busy. This sensorily overwhelming environment would have been impossible for your son to cope with if he was already stressed after school.

    That lady needs educating. Obviously not autism aware.

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  • Autistic kids and adults often mask behaviour when at school or the work-place. This is an adaptive coping strategy. The problem is that others then assume the person is coping and that any behaviour they later show is deliberate. This shows a complete lack of understanding. The person bottles up all their emotions and then releases them where they feel safe, usually at home or with family. I reckon the supermarket was the last straw for your son. Supermarkets can be overwhelming places - they are noisy, and busy. This sensorily overwhelming environment would have been impossible for your son to cope with if he was already stressed after school.

    That lady needs educating. Obviously not autism aware.

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