How do you know?!?

Hi recombinantstocks

Thank you for your reply, when I met with the nursery they told me he didn’t play with the other children, his speech wasn’t great and he seemed to get upset with changes i.e. when they first went outside to play etc., but after a little encouragement he joined in. When he is at home, he loves one to one and yes looks in my eyes, in fact if I ignore him he pulls my face to look at his. He has a great imagination and does love playing by himself, however he does play with my older children when they can be bothered! In fact, during Halloween I took him to a family party and he joined in well and loved the fireworks. I spent today in the nursery to see first hand what they had seen and the truth is I didn’t see him act any differently from any other child, for example if he played at the sand table and other children where also there but non of the other children where interacting with each other, they where more interested in playing with the sand. I also had found he was very sensitive to bright lights but I took him to the opticians and they have told me his is long sited which would explain why he doesn’t like bright lights.

I am just so confused as I don’t want to burry my head in the sand but I don’t want to look into every small detail and think it means something else. Is it normal to feel a sense of guilt? My son is my only child to have been in full time child care and I wonder has this not helped his speech and gave him a fear of being left on his own.

The one thing that upsets me the most is when I told my family (mother & brothers) there 1st reaction was that they where not surprised and they felt there was something just not quite right with my son. That broke my heart as in my eyes he is perfect and I can’t see what they see. I’m just in limbo land at present until I get his 1st review over with and hopefully get more definite information. x

Hi recombinantstocks

Thank you for your reply, when I met with the nursery they told me he didn’t play with the other children, his speech wasn’t great and he seemed to get upset with changes i.e. when they first went outside to play etc., but after a little encouragement he joined in. When he is at home, he loves one to one and yes looks in my eyes, in fact if I ignore him he pulls my face to look at his. He has a great imagination and does love playing by himself, however he does play with my older children when they can be bothered! In fact, during Halloween I took him to a family party and he joined in well and loved the fireworks. I spent today in the nursery to see first hand what they had seen and the truth is I didn’t see him act any differently from any other child, for example if he played at the sand table and other children where also there but non of the other children where interacting with each other, they where more interested in playing with the sand. I also had found he was very sensitive to bright lights but I took him to the opticians and they have told me his is long sited which would explain why he doesn’t like bright lights.

I am just so confused as I don’t want to burry my head in the sand but I don’t want to look into every small detail and think it means something else. Is it normal to feel a sense of guilt? My son is my only child to have been in full time child care and I wonder has this not helped his speech and gave him a fear of being left on his own.

The one thing that upsets me the most is when I told my family (mother & brothers) there 1st reaction was that they where not surprised and they felt there was something just not quite right with my son. That broke my heart as in my eyes he is perfect and I can’t see what they see. I’m just in limbo land at present until I get his 1st review over with and hopefully get more definite information. x