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nicolall

I'm desperately trying to find help. My son is a 24-year-old autistic. We had harassment from elderly neighbours who called him various names and noise nuisance. They have now died, the council have put a new family in. They're even worse than the elderly neighbours with the noise, and screaming and anything to be annoying. My son has health issues and self harms. I've tried getting help from my local council, they were useless. They had us in Band 1 to move, but where the elderly neighbours have died, they have sent us a letter to say that the neighbours "moved out" and that they have taken us off Band 1 now.

I have ended up getting sectioned last night due to the fact that I couldn't cope anymore. Whenever I say anything to adult social services, they say about the solution is for my son to move out, but he is not ready yet, and why should he and I have to endure this when we have done nothing wrong?

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    I use noise cancelling headphones - cheaper than Bose and effective enough to enable me to work in an open plan office www.amazon.co.uk/.../ref=sr_1_7 These can be used to exercise control over what you hear. You can plug them in and effectively turn off the noise from the neighbours and replace it with your own choice of sound This can be music or spoken word recordings depending on what your are trying to get done. I suffer from tinnitus and also from being quite distractable by noise and also find that lots of everyday noise (police sirens, espresso machines, music in shops and public spaces) makes me react more than most people. I usually try and move to quiet spaces or put the earphones in or I remind that I am extra susceptible and that if a wait or do something to remove myself from the noise then the nuisance will pass.

    Most people (noisy people, autistic people, NT people etc etc) put themselves first and often aren't actually able to stop their children being boisterous and noisy. An example of this is that autistic children are particularly hard to control.

    A few people will actually be deliberately annoying but most are just inconsiderate and are not putting you first.

    If you try and control these people then I think you are likely to be disappointed and they generally will react against being controlled. We are often not good at negotiating issues like this without making the situation worse.

    None of the above excuses deliberate discrimination or persecution but I think that this is quite rare.

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  • Former Member
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    I use noise cancelling headphones - cheaper than Bose and effective enough to enable me to work in an open plan office www.amazon.co.uk/.../ref=sr_1_7 These can be used to exercise control over what you hear. You can plug them in and effectively turn off the noise from the neighbours and replace it with your own choice of sound This can be music or spoken word recordings depending on what your are trying to get done. I suffer from tinnitus and also from being quite distractable by noise and also find that lots of everyday noise (police sirens, espresso machines, music in shops and public spaces) makes me react more than most people. I usually try and move to quiet spaces or put the earphones in or I remind that I am extra susceptible and that if a wait or do something to remove myself from the noise then the nuisance will pass.

    Most people (noisy people, autistic people, NT people etc etc) put themselves first and often aren't actually able to stop their children being boisterous and noisy. An example of this is that autistic children are particularly hard to control.

    A few people will actually be deliberately annoying but most are just inconsiderate and are not putting you first.

    If you try and control these people then I think you are likely to be disappointed and they generally will react against being controlled. We are often not good at negotiating issues like this without making the situation worse.

    None of the above excuses deliberate discrimination or persecution but I think that this is quite rare.

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