Is autism diagnosis the end of the world?

Hi all I'm new to the forum, I have a 14 month old son who is displaying a LOT of signs of ASD. I am bouncing between reassuring myself he is a late bloomer (mostly after reassurance from friends and family) and being 100% certain he has (or will at some point be diagnosed with) ASD.

The signs I am seeing are mainly no response to name, not using gestures and almost no initiation of joint attention And very little back and forth babbling and certainly no consistently used words. Now, to me there is little doubt but my family are adamant that I am over-reacting and he is just a normal boy who is taking a little time to develop..they cite things that must mean he doesn't have a problem like hugging, following simple instructions (he certainly does understand much of what we say), he is happy and liked people etc. unfortunately none of these things rule out autism.

this difference of opinion between me and everyone else in mine and wife's family and my wife herself is causing problems. I suffered from health anxiety a couple of years ago, constantly thinking I was gravely ill when in fact I had some minor health issues, resesrching symptoms on the Internet in large part led to this. The upshot of this is I am now the boy who cried wolf. I feel really alone at the moment, I want to get my son help but my wife insists we wait until scheduled appointment with HV in a month.

anyway,to the point of my post! I have read a lot from people with autistic children who seem to just get on with it and accept it. Id like to know that once a diagnosis is received what is a patents life like, I am terrified of what the future has in store for my family. I am constantly worrying and feeling down, I don't feel like I will be able to cope. I think it would help to hear other people's experiences, how did people make the transition from the terror I am now experiencing to living a happy life with their autistic child?

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  • Former Member
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    As you say, it varies with the person. I have 3 degrees, have worked almost without interruption and only discovered I was ASD at the age of 56 when I realised that it wasn't normal to have the degree of stress and conflict that have marked my career. Other people are much more debilitated and some are perhaps debilitated by having a label applied to them!

    It wouldn't surprise me if you had some degree of affect. Some of your answers have raised red flags to me! If you are curious then there is a free and simple test at http://aspergerstest.net/aq-test/ that will give an indication of whether you might be on the spectrum. If you come up positive then that should be OK as the knowledge should help you reduce your stress and anxieties. If you are negative then that is good too since it will be one less thing to worry about. (I score around 40/50 on the test and also have a psychiatrist's diagnosis so I am firmly on the ASD side of the fence.)

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  • Former Member
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    As you say, it varies with the person. I have 3 degrees, have worked almost without interruption and only discovered I was ASD at the age of 56 when I realised that it wasn't normal to have the degree of stress and conflict that have marked my career. Other people are much more debilitated and some are perhaps debilitated by having a label applied to them!

    It wouldn't surprise me if you had some degree of affect. Some of your answers have raised red flags to me! If you are curious then there is a free and simple test at http://aspergerstest.net/aq-test/ that will give an indication of whether you might be on the spectrum. If you come up positive then that should be OK as the knowledge should help you reduce your stress and anxieties. If you are negative then that is good too since it will be one less thing to worry about. (I score around 40/50 on the test and also have a psychiatrist's diagnosis so I am firmly on the ASD side of the fence.)

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