Not sure where to start?

Hi there.

I'm new to this and find this subject (autism) all very confusing. We've always known our litttle boy (now 6) was different but over the past few days it's been confirmed. His school called us in and they have advised us that they beleive he is displaying autistic behaviour. His behaviour at home can and has been challenging but nothing that we would consider as naughty, just hard work sometimes. We've been told that at shcool he finds some lessons difficult and has left the room and gone off on his own and sat there banging his head on the wall or floor, something he has never done in our presence. This is one on trait he is displaying, he does avoid eye contact and has done for most of his life although if i say to him look into my eyes he does with ease. He's affectionate to us, to friends he knows, to our pet cat. He is (oddly enough) one of the most popular kids in his school, and with all the grown ups that know him. His after school club love him to bits, his teachers love him to bits and do on. He is not naughty at all, in fact, he is an absolute angel and has a heart of gold. All of this has been a shock to us. As i said, we sort of guessed he was different but hearing him displaying the type of behaviour he expresses at school and not at home was a shock. He's also really intelligent and this comes from the school. 

We don't know what to do, where to to etc. The school have given us a letter for his GP, we are takimg him there as soon as we can. We are getting the SENCO at the school involved (who is excellent). We just don't know what to do next?

Right now i feel like a crap dad.

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  • Hi Tezzah,

     

    Just want to say hang in there, my daughters behaviour has been shocking at times, she missis lot's of school and can be violent and abusive, but when she's having a good day she's a joy. I know how hard it is, I've been at my wits end on numerous occasions.

    I've nagged and nagged and nagged to get an assessment for my daughter, no one was taking any notice and I eventually went to see my MP as I was at the end of my teather and didn't know where else to turn. Within the space of a couple of weeks I had been given appointments for neuro development tests and the child psychologist!!

    She's had her first test this morning and her other appointments are next week!! (amazing what can be sorted out when the pressure is on eh?)

    I guess what I'm trying to say is you have to scream, shout and stamp your feet to get anywhere with these services, I really hate to say this but it's true.

    Please remember, you are not alone, forums like this have kept me sane over the last 12 months and given me some hope for the future. I'm happy to give you my e mail or facebook address if you'd like to chat, there's a great Aspergers forum on facebook also.

    Take care and I hope things get moving for you soon.

    Andrea

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  • Hi Tezzah,

     

    Just want to say hang in there, my daughters behaviour has been shocking at times, she missis lot's of school and can be violent and abusive, but when she's having a good day she's a joy. I know how hard it is, I've been at my wits end on numerous occasions.

    I've nagged and nagged and nagged to get an assessment for my daughter, no one was taking any notice and I eventually went to see my MP as I was at the end of my teather and didn't know where else to turn. Within the space of a couple of weeks I had been given appointments for neuro development tests and the child psychologist!!

    She's had her first test this morning and her other appointments are next week!! (amazing what can be sorted out when the pressure is on eh?)

    I guess what I'm trying to say is you have to scream, shout and stamp your feet to get anywhere with these services, I really hate to say this but it's true.

    Please remember, you are not alone, forums like this have kept me sane over the last 12 months and given me some hope for the future. I'm happy to give you my e mail or facebook address if you'd like to chat, there's a great Aspergers forum on facebook also.

    Take care and I hope things get moving for you soon.

    Andrea

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