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Tezzah

Hi there.

I'm new to this and find this subject (autism) all very confusing. We've always known our litttle boy (now 6) was different but over the past few days it's been confirmed. His school called us in and they have advised us that they beleive he is displaying autistic behaviour. His behaviour at home can and has been challenging but nothing that we would consider as naughty, just hard work sometimes. We've been told that at shcool he finds some lessons difficult and has left the room and gone off on his own and sat there banging his head on the wall or floor, something he has never done in our presence. This is one on trait he is displaying, he does avoid eye contact and has done for most of his life although if i say to him look into my eyes he does with ease. He's affectionate to us, to friends he knows, to our pet cat. He is (oddly enough) one of the most popular kids in his school, and with all the grown ups that know him. His after school club love him to bits, his teachers love him to bits and do on. He is not naughty at all, in fact, he is an absolute angel and has a heart of gold. All of this has been a shock to us. As i said, we sort of guessed he was different but hearing him displaying the type of behaviour he expresses at school and not at home was a shock. He's also really intelligent and this comes from the school. 

We don't know what to do, where to to etc. The school have given us a letter for his GP, we are takimg him there as soon as we can. We are getting the SENCO at the school involved (who is excellent). We just don't know what to do next?

Right now i feel like a crap dad.

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  • Hi all, thanks for the replies. 

    We have everything underway, we went to our GP who was fab and we have him booked in for the middle of January so fingers crossed.

    His behaviour is odd, for example today, it's the school nativity and generally this feels him with dread, he will not get involved.

    He wasn't naughty and is regarded by his school as totally not naughty, in fact they say the opposite, he is caring and helpful and never actually naughty. One of his problems is that (as seen today) he can't or won't sit still during the show, he has to be doing something, even if this is just throwing his hat in the air and catching it) despite the show not being that long (under an hour). When on the stage when it's his classes turn to go on he will just make faces and hop from foot to foot, nothing OTT but enough to stand out.

    We also find that sometimes he makes silly noises up when adults are talking, you know the blah blah sort just so there is a niise. Often we have have to tell him that we love him and he is super important to us but we need to talk too, that generally works. 

    We have now discovered that he doesn't like certain colours, text or numbers, for example he doesn't like red text, or the numbers 6 or 9 as they look angry. He will just refuse to read and gets stressed if asked to read text of a certain colour so the school have already adapted that for him.

    His ready is excellent, he is doing pretty well in school and hitting targets however he is in a world of his own most of the time. My wife is taking this worse than me and now only remembers the few nasty comments she got a day nursery which we pulled our boy from (financial reasons - not related to anything here).

    I'm not actually convinced he has ASD, i think he has some behavioural issues (not naughty ones, more concentrating and fitting in with others) however i am happy to be corrected and learn from this.

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  • Hi all, thanks for the replies. 

    We have everything underway, we went to our GP who was fab and we have him booked in for the middle of January so fingers crossed.

    His behaviour is odd, for example today, it's the school nativity and generally this feels him with dread, he will not get involved.

    He wasn't naughty and is regarded by his school as totally not naughty, in fact they say the opposite, he is caring and helpful and never actually naughty. One of his problems is that (as seen today) he can't or won't sit still during the show, he has to be doing something, even if this is just throwing his hat in the air and catching it) despite the show not being that long (under an hour). When on the stage when it's his classes turn to go on he will just make faces and hop from foot to foot, nothing OTT but enough to stand out.

    We also find that sometimes he makes silly noises up when adults are talking, you know the blah blah sort just so there is a niise. Often we have have to tell him that we love him and he is super important to us but we need to talk too, that generally works. 

    We have now discovered that he doesn't like certain colours, text or numbers, for example he doesn't like red text, or the numbers 6 or 9 as they look angry. He will just refuse to read and gets stressed if asked to read text of a certain colour so the school have already adapted that for him.

    His ready is excellent, he is doing pretty well in school and hitting targets however he is in a world of his own most of the time. My wife is taking this worse than me and now only remembers the few nasty comments she got a day nursery which we pulled our boy from (financial reasons - not related to anything here).

    I'm not actually convinced he has ASD, i think he has some behavioural issues (not naughty ones, more concentrating and fitting in with others) however i am happy to be corrected and learn from this.

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