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How did I not realise my son was different?

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Hi,

Sorry if a similar issue has been raised before.

My son is 6 and since he started nursery his teachers have been telling me that his behaviour is a bit out of the ordinary and that they thought there was something different about him and the way he acts.  I was adamant for a long time he was, for want of a better word, "normal" and only in the last 6 months have I agreed to the assessment.

He has come back as autistic (high functioning), and I seperately have been screened as high functioning and ADHD by a psychologist although I have to wait a long time for a diagnostic appointment for myself.

From hearing other peoples' struggles with getting their doctors to agree to a diagnosis for their child, not only do I feel grateful that the school pushed me to get my son assessed, but I am also worried that I didn't see anything "strange" or different with him myself.  Yes, he has quirks, but isn't everyone different?

I am his mum so surely I should have noticed that he was different.  I feel bad because I have been quite hard on him in regards to his bad behaviour at school (although he is lively, but manageable at home) and maybe all this time I should have just understood him more.

Has anyone elses' child diagnosis come the same way as mine?  It seems I am in the minority for not realising myself.  Sorry this is really long.

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  • I have managed to borrow the Tony Attwood book from the library and it has a lot of useful information and ideas in it, so I shall probably buy a copy to keep.

    The pratitioner who tested my daughter said there is no support in my location, and she said the best thing to do was to read and look on the internet for information that could help.  So I am going to read as much as I can, so thank you for the reading suggestions Classic Codger and Longman.

    From what I have read and found out so far, I have been surprised too at how many of the traits I have too, though in my younger days I was seen more as 'the odd one out' and nothing was ever done about it.   But it gives me a bit of understanding as to how my daughter could feel.

    I think the understanding of ASD has changed a lot over the years, and I think you should be able to get the help you need from your boy's school ChewChew.

    Thank you all

    I have also ordered 'Aspergers for Dummies' from the library, and wondered what the thoughts were on this book?

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  • I have managed to borrow the Tony Attwood book from the library and it has a lot of useful information and ideas in it, so I shall probably buy a copy to keep.

    The pratitioner who tested my daughter said there is no support in my location, and she said the best thing to do was to read and look on the internet for information that could help.  So I am going to read as much as I can, so thank you for the reading suggestions Classic Codger and Longman.

    From what I have read and found out so far, I have been surprised too at how many of the traits I have too, though in my younger days I was seen more as 'the odd one out' and nothing was ever done about it.   But it gives me a bit of understanding as to how my daughter could feel.

    I think the understanding of ASD has changed a lot over the years, and I think you should be able to get the help you need from your boy's school ChewChew.

    Thank you all

    I have also ordered 'Aspergers for Dummies' from the library, and wondered what the thoughts were on this book?

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