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How did I not realise my son was different?

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Hi,

Sorry if a similar issue has been raised before.

My son is 6 and since he started nursery his teachers have been telling me that his behaviour is a bit out of the ordinary and that they thought there was something different about him and the way he acts.  I was adamant for a long time he was, for want of a better word, "normal" and only in the last 6 months have I agreed to the assessment.

He has come back as autistic (high functioning), and I seperately have been screened as high functioning and ADHD by a psychologist although I have to wait a long time for a diagnostic appointment for myself.

From hearing other peoples' struggles with getting their doctors to agree to a diagnosis for their child, not only do I feel grateful that the school pushed me to get my son assessed, but I am also worried that I didn't see anything "strange" or different with him myself.  Yes, he has quirks, but isn't everyone different?

I am his mum so surely I should have noticed that he was different.  I feel bad because I have been quite hard on him in regards to his bad behaviour at school (although he is lively, but manageable at home) and maybe all this time I should have just understood him more.

Has anyone elses' child diagnosis come the same way as mine?  It seems I am in the minority for not realising myself.  Sorry this is really long.

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  • Hi Jenny, I have a meeting next week at my son's school so will see what can be done then.

    It's good that the school are accommodating your daughter's needs, I was really lacking in support during my last year and went from being predicted As and A*s in my GCSEs, to getting barely Cs and Ds, although I had a very unstable homelife and there wasn't much the school could have done about that.

    Thank god that there is more help availible for kids these days.

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  • Hi Jenny, I have a meeting next week at my son's school so will see what can be done then.

    It's good that the school are accommodating your daughter's needs, I was really lacking in support during my last year and went from being predicted As and A*s in my GCSEs, to getting barely Cs and Ds, although I had a very unstable homelife and there wasn't much the school could have done about that.

    Thank god that there is more help availible for kids these days.

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