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How did I not realise my son was different?

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Hi,

Sorry if a similar issue has been raised before.

My son is 6 and since he started nursery his teachers have been telling me that his behaviour is a bit out of the ordinary and that they thought there was something different about him and the way he acts.  I was adamant for a long time he was, for want of a better word, "normal" and only in the last 6 months have I agreed to the assessment.

He has come back as autistic (high functioning), and I seperately have been screened as high functioning and ADHD by a psychologist although I have to wait a long time for a diagnostic appointment for myself.

From hearing other peoples' struggles with getting their doctors to agree to a diagnosis for their child, not only do I feel grateful that the school pushed me to get my son assessed, but I am also worried that I didn't see anything "strange" or different with him myself.  Yes, he has quirks, but isn't everyone different?

I am his mum so surely I should have noticed that he was different.  I feel bad because I have been quite hard on him in regards to his bad behaviour at school (although he is lively, but manageable at home) and maybe all this time I should have just understood him more.

Has anyone elses' child diagnosis come the same way as mine?  It seems I am in the minority for not realising myself.  Sorry this is really long.

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  • Thanks for your reply, Jenny.  The school have to take the credit for his quick diagnosis, but however it happened I'm glad.

    I hope that your daughter finds her life more easy to cope withafter getting diagnosed.  My younger sister has aspergers, which was diagnosed when she was 14, but like with my son, she never rang any alarm bells for me.  Mind you, we have different mums so I didn't see as much of her as I would like.  I hope the diagnosis being late won't impact too badly on her. x

    I am waiting for my own confirmation of diagnosis for autism and ADHD and am wondering if this will be a help or hinderance in helping my son with his development.  I suppose, at least I will be in a good place to understand him.

    Good luck to you and your daughter for the future. x

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  • Thanks for your reply, Jenny.  The school have to take the credit for his quick diagnosis, but however it happened I'm glad.

    I hope that your daughter finds her life more easy to cope withafter getting diagnosed.  My younger sister has aspergers, which was diagnosed when she was 14, but like with my son, she never rang any alarm bells for me.  Mind you, we have different mums so I didn't see as much of her as I would like.  I hope the diagnosis being late won't impact too badly on her. x

    I am waiting for my own confirmation of diagnosis for autism and ADHD and am wondering if this will be a help or hinderance in helping my son with his development.  I suppose, at least I will be in a good place to understand him.

    Good luck to you and your daughter for the future. x

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