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How did I not realise my son was different?

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Hi,

Sorry if a similar issue has been raised before.

My son is 6 and since he started nursery his teachers have been telling me that his behaviour is a bit out of the ordinary and that they thought there was something different about him and the way he acts.  I was adamant for a long time he was, for want of a better word, "normal" and only in the last 6 months have I agreed to the assessment.

He has come back as autistic (high functioning), and I seperately have been screened as high functioning and ADHD by a psychologist although I have to wait a long time for a diagnostic appointment for myself.

From hearing other peoples' struggles with getting their doctors to agree to a diagnosis for their child, not only do I feel grateful that the school pushed me to get my son assessed, but I am also worried that I didn't see anything "strange" or different with him myself.  Yes, he has quirks, but isn't everyone different?

I am his mum so surely I should have noticed that he was different.  I feel bad because I have been quite hard on him in regards to his bad behaviour at school (although he is lively, but manageable at home) and maybe all this time I should have just understood him more.

Has anyone elses' child diagnosis come the same way as mine?  It seems I am in the minority for not realising myself.  Sorry this is really long.

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  • My daughter is nearly 16 and awaiting diagnosis, and over the years I have always just seen her as 'my lovely daughter' with her quirky ways and differences.

    I became more concerned when she started senior school a few years ago, when her social anxieties and sensory issues became more of a problem, and episodes of depression and rages led to her being seen by a mental health practitioner for the first time last year, but she only got tested recently.

    My daughter has been well behaved at school, apart from lateness, but it is at home that she gets in rages over things.  So I guess the senior school wouldn't have been aware in my case.  Though primary school did notice some issues but just said she should grow out of them, but she never really did.

    So I don't think it is always easy to tell at a young age, so don't worry about not knowing sooner.  

    You have done well to get a diagnosis at the age of 6.

    Take care.

    Jenny

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  • My daughter is nearly 16 and awaiting diagnosis, and over the years I have always just seen her as 'my lovely daughter' with her quirky ways and differences.

    I became more concerned when she started senior school a few years ago, when her social anxieties and sensory issues became more of a problem, and episodes of depression and rages led to her being seen by a mental health practitioner for the first time last year, but she only got tested recently.

    My daughter has been well behaved at school, apart from lateness, but it is at home that she gets in rages over things.  So I guess the senior school wouldn't have been aware in my case.  Though primary school did notice some issues but just said she should grow out of them, but she never really did.

    So I don't think it is always easy to tell at a young age, so don't worry about not knowing sooner.  

    You have done well to get a diagnosis at the age of 6.

    Take care.

    Jenny

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