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Possible to be sociable with Aspergers

Migsy

Hi

I'm new to the formum.  I have had problems with my 10 yr old all his life with very challenging behaviour which seems to fit with AS.  He is functions well though and copes just about OK at school.  I find his behaviour at home increasingly difficult to manage as he get physically bigger and stronger.  I also find his stresses and meltdowns hard.  

 

The thing which has always made me think he is not ASD is that he is very sociable. He has no problems with eye contact etc.  However, he can behave inappropriately and tends to hurt people a lot, for example, he will get angry when playing football and trip other players up or he might kick a ball towards someone's face if they do something he doesn't like.  So, he does have some problems socially, it is just that he is friendly and loves social gatherings such as parties etc.  He has plenty of friends although I do hear them having a word with him for his unwanted behaviour sometimes.

 

Is it possible to have AS and still be sociable and friendly?  

 

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  • When I was at school I had severe visual-spatial deficits and poor numerical understanding, poor organisation, difficulty following multiple instructions, difficulty with group sports and a very low performance IQ. I still have these difficulties but they affect me less now because I play to my strengths not my weaknesses. I could ride a bike and was very good at tennis and one-to-one sports, but I could not swim (and still cannot) and was hopelessly bad at any games that involved strategy.

    At school I believed I was slow, stupid and incompetent but I now know that I am not any of these, and it came as a revelation when I found out that I actually have a superb memory for facts and that I am really good at understanding complicated philosophical theories. The school handled my difficulties badly, and was only really interested in helping the popular and smart kids - read neuro-typical.

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  • When I was at school I had severe visual-spatial deficits and poor numerical understanding, poor organisation, difficulty following multiple instructions, difficulty with group sports and a very low performance IQ. I still have these difficulties but they affect me less now because I play to my strengths not my weaknesses. I could ride a bike and was very good at tennis and one-to-one sports, but I could not swim (and still cannot) and was hopelessly bad at any games that involved strategy.

    At school I believed I was slow, stupid and incompetent but I now know that I am not any of these, and it came as a revelation when I found out that I actually have a superb memory for facts and that I am really good at understanding complicated philosophical theories. The school handled my difficulties badly, and was only really interested in helping the popular and smart kids - read neuro-typical.

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