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Possible to be sociable with Aspergers

Migsy

Hi

I'm new to the formum.  I have had problems with my 10 yr old all his life with very challenging behaviour which seems to fit with AS.  He is functions well though and copes just about OK at school.  I find his behaviour at home increasingly difficult to manage as he get physically bigger and stronger.  I also find his stresses and meltdowns hard.  

 

The thing which has always made me think he is not ASD is that he is very sociable. He has no problems with eye contact etc.  However, he can behave inappropriately and tends to hurt people a lot, for example, he will get angry when playing football and trip other players up or he might kick a ball towards someone's face if they do something he doesn't like.  So, he does have some problems socially, it is just that he is friendly and loves social gatherings such as parties etc.  He has plenty of friends although I do hear them having a word with him for his unwanted behaviour sometimes.

 

Is it possible to have AS and still be sociable and friendly?  

 

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  • Yes, it is possible to be sociable and to have AS. I am a case in point: very sociable, love talking (often non-stop!), noisy when I am around people I trust, and feel lonely without social contact; but I don't have any close friends.

    You say your son has friends, which is really good. I only had a few friends when I was at primary school, but when looked at from a clinical point of view, they were not friends in the  true sense of the word and I often broke up with them. It might be worth assessing whether your son has meaningful friendships, or whether he understands what real friendship is about.

    There are other conditions such as ADHD, ODD (Oppositional Defiant Disorder) and PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance), which involve social difficulties, and can exist alongside AS or they can be the sole problem. An assessment should also screen for these conditions, too.

     

     

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  • Yes, it is possible to be sociable and to have AS. I am a case in point: very sociable, love talking (often non-stop!), noisy when I am around people I trust, and feel lonely without social contact; but I don't have any close friends.

    You say your son has friends, which is really good. I only had a few friends when I was at primary school, but when looked at from a clinical point of view, they were not friends in the  true sense of the word and I often broke up with them. It might be worth assessing whether your son has meaningful friendships, or whether he understands what real friendship is about.

    There are other conditions such as ADHD, ODD (Oppositional Defiant Disorder) and PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance), which involve social difficulties, and can exist alongside AS or they can be the sole problem. An assessment should also screen for these conditions, too.

     

     

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