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Possible to be sociable with Aspergers

Migsy

Hi

I'm new to the formum.  I have had problems with my 10 yr old all his life with very challenging behaviour which seems to fit with AS.  He is functions well though and copes just about OK at school.  I find his behaviour at home increasingly difficult to manage as he get physically bigger and stronger.  I also find his stresses and meltdowns hard.  

 

The thing which has always made me think he is not ASD is that he is very sociable. He has no problems with eye contact etc.  However, he can behave inappropriately and tends to hurt people a lot, for example, he will get angry when playing football and trip other players up or he might kick a ball towards someone's face if they do something he doesn't like.  So, he does have some problems socially, it is just that he is friendly and loves social gatherings such as parties etc.  He has plenty of friends although I do hear them having a word with him for his unwanted behaviour sometimes.

 

Is it possible to have AS and still be sociable and friendly?  

 

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  • I think NAS needs to come in on this and direct you to the right resources. Apart from some work with undergraduates I can really only comment from learning around my own direct AS experiences.

    Tony Attwood in "The Complete Guide to Asperger's Syndrome" p325- talks about some children with asperger's syndrome, when feeling "alientated from peers, due to a lack of social competence and acceptance, and perhaps further alientated because of learning difficulties or superior intellectual abilities, he or she can achieve authority in a social situation by intimidation".

    I would counsel you though to get professional advice. I think there is a lot of generalised stuff about classic aspergers in clinical observation which gives the impression a child has to meet the standard diagnostic to be aspergers, which may be true of getting diagnosed, but shouldn't be the only criteria for seeking help.

    A lot of the list above is familiar to people on the spectrum and their friends. But I thgink it is time to get advice from the right authorities. The discussion group moderators should be able to help. 

     

    Good luck

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  • I think NAS needs to come in on this and direct you to the right resources. Apart from some work with undergraduates I can really only comment from learning around my own direct AS experiences.

    Tony Attwood in "The Complete Guide to Asperger's Syndrome" p325- talks about some children with asperger's syndrome, when feeling "alientated from peers, due to a lack of social competence and acceptance, and perhaps further alientated because of learning difficulties or superior intellectual abilities, he or she can achieve authority in a social situation by intimidation".

    I would counsel you though to get professional advice. I think there is a lot of generalised stuff about classic aspergers in clinical observation which gives the impression a child has to meet the standard diagnostic to be aspergers, which may be true of getting diagnosed, but shouldn't be the only criteria for seeking help.

    A lot of the list above is familiar to people on the spectrum and their friends. But I thgink it is time to get advice from the right authorities. The discussion group moderators should be able to help. 

     

    Good luck

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