Desperate for help and advice

Hello I am new to this and need advice help or anything really

My son who is 3 displays many ADHD/ASD/PDA symptoms and life is becoming increasingly unbearable with his jeckle and hyde meltdowns and behaviour. He had a brief assesment when he was 2 and they borderlined outlined Social disoirder possible however wont review for at least another year

his meltdowns and behaviour are getting worse, he flies of the handle for no reason, he doesnt stay asleep, he hates change and brocken routine. He never gives eye contact and constantly defies me or refuses to do simple requests, we have abehaviour therapist and even she says we have tried everything i am using her techniques which work to a degree however they are fastly being tested more and more by him, i am exceptionally consistent in my discipline.

he struggles with peers his own age although will play with them but this is short lived often resulting in him hitting or throwing something at them, this could be because he does not know how to engage in what they are doing and this is his way of venting frustration

i feel like i have been passed around the houses with him and am sick of being looked at like i am a bad parent - its hreartbreaking to watch my son have  a 2-3 hour meltdown hes so upset afterwards like he doesnt know why hes done it

he can be good as gold and exceptionally affectionate one minute and the smallest of things can set him off

he hates sudden noise, sarcasm etc this will trigger him as he doesnt seem to grasp it

can anyone suggest where i go next i call the GP weekly they ask for a faster assesment but I am not taken seriously

he goes to a child care providor and they also have concerns for his development/behaviour

everytime i feel that i may get somehwere im back to sqaure 1

any help is greatly appreciated

thanks

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  • Sounds like you need support for you too?

    Have you ever considered counselling just for yourself with someone who does understand autism? 

    In those sessions you could perhaps work out some kind of action plan to help you through.

    Sad to say but may be GP are taking you seriously in that there is not much more they can do to speed up the second assessment.  Phone the helpline number advertised on this site and speak to them about how to speed it up and how to plan to help you through. You can book a phone appoinment.

    But you can read up tips on this site that may help you to plan to realise that you can put things into place to help both you and your son to learn to manage each time.

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  • Sounds like you need support for you too?

    Have you ever considered counselling just for yourself with someone who does understand autism? 

    In those sessions you could perhaps work out some kind of action plan to help you through.

    Sad to say but may be GP are taking you seriously in that there is not much more they can do to speed up the second assessment.  Phone the helpline number advertised on this site and speak to them about how to speed it up and how to plan to help you through. You can book a phone appoinment.

    But you can read up tips on this site that may help you to plan to realise that you can put things into place to help both you and your son to learn to manage each time.

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