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teenage diagnosis or not

sanders

Hi , 

I am a mother of 5 children , my youngest son is in the process of being diagnosed with adhd/autism . Our daughter is nearly 13 and since a very early age has had difficulties . She always has had temper tantrums  / meltdowns , smashed things up . Although she can talk and has coped so far at mainstream school . These tantrums have continued all her life particularly if we are going somewhere or going to school . Throughout the years i have noticed that she does not understand friendships and cannot keep friends at all.We have had her at family and child specialists and educational psychologist who spoke to her for 5 mins and then told me i was not being strict enough with her . Since that particular meeting i gave up looking for an answer for her behaviour until now . After speaking to our sons speach therapist she advised us to get her asessed for asd also ..but i need some advice on this ..if there is anyone out there who has experience in this please please help me  :)

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  • Read away ^^ I'm glad I could help in some way or another.

    Since I've been diagnosed I found out the school my 6th form is based at has a special ASD division with other kids with the same condition as me. Usually I avoid people as though they're about to explode at any minute but I went down to the ASD department to meet the other kids. Turns out they're all younger than me, anywhere from 13-15, and surprisingly a lot easier to talk to than 'normal' people. From talking to them I've found out about different coping techniques, like playing with a fluffy piece of fabric or blue tack. One girl has her own rubber band ball that she plays with when she gets angry at other people.

    The only other advice I'd give is that maybe your daughter should try and find a 'safe' place to go. I always hid out in the library when things got too stressful because the kids that would try and make fun of me didn't even seem to realise we had a place filled with books on the premesis xD

    Its small things like the above that she can do without drawing attention to herself. I relied on some of the above techniques for years before I was diagnosed and I managed to get through high school without any major breakdowns :)

    Good luck!

     

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  • Read away ^^ I'm glad I could help in some way or another.

    Since I've been diagnosed I found out the school my 6th form is based at has a special ASD division with other kids with the same condition as me. Usually I avoid people as though they're about to explode at any minute but I went down to the ASD department to meet the other kids. Turns out they're all younger than me, anywhere from 13-15, and surprisingly a lot easier to talk to than 'normal' people. From talking to them I've found out about different coping techniques, like playing with a fluffy piece of fabric or blue tack. One girl has her own rubber band ball that she plays with when she gets angry at other people.

    The only other advice I'd give is that maybe your daughter should try and find a 'safe' place to go. I always hid out in the library when things got too stressful because the kids that would try and make fun of me didn't even seem to realise we had a place filled with books on the premesis xD

    Its small things like the above that she can do without drawing attention to herself. I relied on some of the above techniques for years before I was diagnosed and I managed to get through high school without any major breakdowns :)

    Good luck!

     

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