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teenage diagnosis or not

sanders

Hi , 

I am a mother of 5 children , my youngest son is in the process of being diagnosed with adhd/autism . Our daughter is nearly 13 and since a very early age has had difficulties . She always has had temper tantrums  / meltdowns , smashed things up . Although she can talk and has coped so far at mainstream school . These tantrums have continued all her life particularly if we are going somewhere or going to school . Throughout the years i have noticed that she does not understand friendships and cannot keep friends at all.We have had her at family and child specialists and educational psychologist who spoke to her for 5 mins and then told me i was not being strict enough with her . Since that particular meeting i gave up looking for an answer for her behaviour until now . After speaking to our sons speach therapist she advised us to get her asessed for asd also ..but i need some advice on this ..if there is anyone out there who has experience in this please please help me  :)

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  • Get her assessed.

    I'm 17 and I've only just been diagnosed with Aspergers Syndrome. I've spent my entire life at highschool trying to contain all my worries and fears and trust me it wasn't easy. The urge to lash out at others that make fun of you for being slightly different is increadibly strong but most times it just spurs them on.

    Schools are also sod all help unless she's diagnosed. I'm having a hard time actually trusting teachers that want to help me now because I was overlooked so often when I was 'normal'. It doens't help that all the advice and coping techniques they try to give me are for toddlers.

    Honestly, if you have even the slightest suspicion shes got ASD get her assessed because if she does have it there are so many things available to help her cope as well as ways to make you understand her perspective. It'll also help you figure out what things she has trouble with in keeping friends i.e. I had no idea whether people were being sarcastic, joking or serious. It's taken me reaching 6th form/college to find people willing to sit down and explain it to me before I get the chance to interpret it the wrong way.

    I hope this helps :)

     

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  • Get her assessed.

    I'm 17 and I've only just been diagnosed with Aspergers Syndrome. I've spent my entire life at highschool trying to contain all my worries and fears and trust me it wasn't easy. The urge to lash out at others that make fun of you for being slightly different is increadibly strong but most times it just spurs them on.

    Schools are also sod all help unless she's diagnosed. I'm having a hard time actually trusting teachers that want to help me now because I was overlooked so often when I was 'normal'. It doens't help that all the advice and coping techniques they try to give me are for toddlers.

    Honestly, if you have even the slightest suspicion shes got ASD get her assessed because if she does have it there are so many things available to help her cope as well as ways to make you understand her perspective. It'll also help you figure out what things she has trouble with in keeping friends i.e. I had no idea whether people were being sarcastic, joking or serious. It's taken me reaching 6th form/college to find people willing to sit down and explain it to me before I get the chance to interpret it the wrong way.

    I hope this helps :)

     

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