self examination

This is an old post David...  I think if it had been a wind up rather than a genuine question there would have been more posts.

Re first posts: it may be that someone with an embarrassing question to ask would use a user name as a one-off.  So it might be that a regular user started a new user name just to post once. That would be sensible as it would reduce the chances of them (and their autistic son) being recognised. For instance, I use a user name here that I don't use on any other forums.  However I've given enough details (job etc) that people who know me elsewhere (online and offline) could recognise me if they happened to come here. That's fine as I reckon if they come here I don't mind them knowing that I feel I have a mild asd.  But if I had a question to ask that I didn't want them to see, I'd use another user name just for that.

Re dad's demo (!) I do agree it was misguided in this case. However I can believe someone thinking demonstration is the best way to explain things.  In many cases it is... but in this case I think a dummy or education film (if such things are available...) would have been better options!  Actually someone trying to do right by their son and ending up blundering into doing something inappropriate could be an asd thing to do!  I also think it's possible that there might be neurotypicals out there who are close enough and comfortable enough that a demo would have been ok... After all, if you watch 'One Born Every Minute' quite a few of the women giving birth have mums and sometimes other familly members present. Lots of peoples with disabled or elderly relatives help them with washing and toileting.  So there are situations where those boundaries go down and it's not sexual.

I meant to say when this was first posted (thanks for the reminder David), that I'm a bit concerned that the young man feels he's safe because he has 'good blood'.  I think it would be good to try and work out where he got that belief, and for him to maybe have a talk with his doctor about it.  It may not be the only thing he feels 'good blood' protects him from, and he could end up at risk as a result.

This is an old post David...  I think if it had been a wind up rather than a genuine question there would have been more posts.

Re first posts: it may be that someone with an embarrassing question to ask would use a user name as a one-off.  So it might be that a regular user started a new user name just to post once. That would be sensible as it would reduce the chances of them (and their autistic son) being recognised. For instance, I use a user name here that I don't use on any other forums.  However I've given enough details (job etc) that people who know me elsewhere (online and offline) could recognise me if they happened to come here. That's fine as I reckon if they come here I don't mind them knowing that I feel I have a mild asd.  But if I had a question to ask that I didn't want them to see, I'd use another user name just for that.

Re dad's demo (!) I do agree it was misguided in this case. However I can believe someone thinking demonstration is the best way to explain things.  In many cases it is... but in this case I think a dummy or education film (if such things are available...) would have been better options!  Actually someone trying to do right by their son and ending up blundering into doing something inappropriate could be an asd thing to do!  I also think it's possible that there might be neurotypicals out there who are close enough and comfortable enough that a demo would have been ok... After all, if you watch 'One Born Every Minute' quite a few of the women giving birth have mums and sometimes other familly members present. Lots of peoples with disabled or elderly relatives help them with washing and toileting.  So there are situations where those boundaries go down and it's not sexual.

I meant to say when this was first posted (thanks for the reminder David), that I'm a bit concerned that the young man feels he's safe because he has 'good blood'.  I think it would be good to try and work out where he got that belief, and for him to maybe have a talk with his doctor about it.  It may not be the only thing he feels 'good blood' protects him from, and he could end up at risk as a result.