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bereavement

Marjorie195

Our daughter took her own life 5 years ago, after a long depressive illness. Mostly, I have learned to live with it. But, I hate January.

Memories, like little bolts of lightening, have been striking. 

We have just had the best christmas for many years, with our son and new daughter in law. I was happy for while.

But it was not like christmas was years ago, the four of us happy together.

Our brand new beautiful christmas bauble was shattered, as though we had dropped it when we took down the tree.

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  • Hi yellow sunflower, thankyou for your kind thoughts.

    I have wondered about counselling, but I have the issue that , when face to face with someone, I cannot speak about these things. It takes me so long to start, that the session is over before I can think of what to say.

    I have had counselling for other things, in the past, and I just annoyed them because I don't say what they expect. One person just stopped coming to see me with no explanation, and the other counsellor actually shouted at me and said I was wasting her time. 

    If someone asks me a question, or talks to me about something, I can take a long time to formulate a response. I have to be alone and think about it for a while, before I realise what I do think and feel. I cannot be with people and think at the same time.

    I wonder if this is an asd issue?

    I am not sad all the time now,it is just anniveraries and when I meet friends of hers etc. 

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  • Hi yellow sunflower, thankyou for your kind thoughts.

    I have wondered about counselling, but I have the issue that , when face to face with someone, I cannot speak about these things. It takes me so long to start, that the session is over before I can think of what to say.

    I have had counselling for other things, in the past, and I just annoyed them because I don't say what they expect. One person just stopped coming to see me with no explanation, and the other counsellor actually shouted at me and said I was wasting her time. 

    If someone asks me a question, or talks to me about something, I can take a long time to formulate a response. I have to be alone and think about it for a while, before I realise what I do think and feel. I cannot be with people and think at the same time.

    I wonder if this is an asd issue?

    I am not sad all the time now,it is just anniveraries and when I meet friends of hers etc. 

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