Really struggling to deal with all this I am so exhausted I just want to curl under my bed all the time
Parents
Former Member
Sez,
I am working on the assumption that you are an adult and that your parents are no longer responsible for you. I also assume that your mother is really trying her best and that she has your best interests at heart. It is possible for a court to decide that you are not capable of looking after yourself but his is a major thing that involves the Mental Capacity Act and I very much doubt that this has been used in your case. The doctors will know this and it sounds as though they are playing by the rules and letting you decide about who gets told anything about you. As an adult you have rights that you didn't have as a child. It may be that your parents are struggling to accept that you are now an adult and that they have to stop treating you like a child.
I suspect that your mother may not agree with some of your decisions and she may not understand why you make some decisions. ASD can make people appear to be less clever than they really are because we struggle to communicate and sometimes we simply don't think the same way as other people so we come to different (not necessarily better or worse) decisions to other people. Your mother may be trying to protect you, as any mother would, from you making mistakes.
I suspect that your mother does not understand anything about ASD and that she may not understand much of what you are going through. What do you think the situation looks like from her point of view?
I am working on the assumption that you are an adult and that your parents are no longer responsible for you. I also assume that your mother is really trying her best and that she has your best interests at heart. It is possible for a court to decide that you are not capable of looking after yourself but his is a major thing that involves the Mental Capacity Act and I very much doubt that this has been used in your case. The doctors will know this and it sounds as though they are playing by the rules and letting you decide about who gets told anything about you. As an adult you have rights that you didn't have as a child. It may be that your parents are struggling to accept that you are now an adult and that they have to stop treating you like a child.
I suspect that your mother may not agree with some of your decisions and she may not understand why you make some decisions. ASD can make people appear to be less clever than they really are because we struggle to communicate and sometimes we simply don't think the same way as other people so we come to different (not necessarily better or worse) decisions to other people. Your mother may be trying to protect you, as any mother would, from you making mistakes.
I suspect that your mother does not understand anything about ASD and that she may not understand much of what you are going through. What do you think the situation looks like from her point of view?
