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Argh silly silly silly me

mumof4boys772

I need help om combatting this please, we are still awaiting diagnoses for my son, (hfa) if he gets it,however we have always always had a problem with toilets,its very very rare he will use one outside,hes 7 now,anyway ne day i managed to get him into a disabled toilet and said i had to lock the door as i wanted a wee too,i realised very quickly he was not happy with this and havent done it since.

However on the odd occasion that he will use a disabled toilet, he will not shut the door, i have to hold it open,i had to do it at the doctors the other day,stading there holding the door open whilst he had a wee, i know he will use this one as its a one man toilet,so nobody else can get in it to turn the hand dryer on!

He went into the school toilets the other day and sat with the door open and the kids came in and took the mick out of him.

Anyway should i continue holding the door open? i have tried explaning several times.

How would you deal with this please?

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  • Maybe a step by step approach might help?  How wide open is the door?  You cd agree with him to inch it a bit each time he used it.  You cd practice with your toilet door at home so he cd have the experience in a place he felt safe.  You cd explain to him about why privacy + safety are important.  If he can get comfortable shutting the door + later after practicing again at home, locking/bolting it then he can transfer that experience hopefully to other toilets, perhaps with your help initially such as the 1 at the Drs or 1 in a shopping ctre?

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  • Maybe a step by step approach might help?  How wide open is the door?  You cd agree with him to inch it a bit each time he used it.  You cd practice with your toilet door at home so he cd have the experience in a place he felt safe.  You cd explain to him about why privacy + safety are important.  If he can get comfortable shutting the door + later after practicing again at home, locking/bolting it then he can transfer that experience hopefully to other toilets, perhaps with your help initially such as the 1 at the Drs or 1 in a shopping ctre?

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