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Adult diagnosis of Asperger's?

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Just registered here so this is my first post. Basically I've struggled with a lot of things most of my life, I'm in my late 30s now, but in my early 30s a friend suggested that I may have Asperger's. I looked into it and it really explained a lot of things, actually it was hugely helpful to self diagnose, since it's helped me deal with why I have trouble with certain things and why I struggle doing things that most people take for granted.

The reason I've come on here is to ask about proper diagnosis, and whether it's worth it? I work as a freelance designer / illustrator so I work from home, which suits me well because I find it really hard to work in an office. However, I'd like to try to get a full time job in my field, so I'm wondering if getting a proper diagnosis will be beneficial?

I have absolutely no idea what help is available for people with Asperger's, nor if there's even any help that can be given. I don't really know my GP since I rarely get ill, and the thought of going to them to talk about this sort of thing makes me really anxious, so I've been avoiding it for ages. But having said that, if there's a real advantage to getting a proper diagnosis then I could probably push myself to do so.

Another problem from reading some of the threads on this forum, is that it seems a lot of people don't get taken very seriously, or can appear to be "fine" when seeing a GP or a specialist. I've trained myself over the years to create habits to sort of hide my Asperger's (or suspected Asperger's!) so I worry it may be hard to diagnose.

Any thoughts or advice would be greatly appreciated! 

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  • Hi,

    I was just trying to say that not everyone can or should be trusted with knowing about your Asperger diagnosis.  Especially if they have known you from before you were diagnosed.  I am very newly diagnosed but am finding that I should choose carefully with what I say to whom.  

    One friend, who meant well, said that he always knew I was very scientific and factual and I needed to move beyond that into being more aware and just experiencing my life with added feeling. Frankly I broke down and cried because he had clearly entirely missed the point that I wasn't capable of doing the empathy, compassion bit.  It's like saying to a blind person, just let your vision guide you.... eh?

    The comment above was from a [now ex] boyfriend.  He did a lot of complaining about a lot of things mainly along the lines of me not worshipping the ground he walked on, spending every single spare moment with him, cooking and tending to his every need without expecting him to pitch in.... and most especially answering a text message within 10 seconds.  Not sure what it was all about but he was hard work!  

    My boss received the news with confusion and I think avoided me for some time afterwards, but things are getting back to normal now.

    I went foward for diagnosis because I needed it ruled out or ruled in.  My recuring mental health issues could have been just that, health issues, or it could have stemmed from my not entirely supported childhood (with a very cold mother figure) rendering some lingering psychologiccal problem or maybe I was Asperger like my son. (or should that be the other way around??)

    So now I have my answer and I'm still waiting for it to sink in.  It is quite an emotional roller coaster.  I'm hoping it will be worth it.  At the moment I feel quite isolated and it's great to know there are 'others' out there  -  it really is.  

    Kitty x

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  • Hi,

    I was just trying to say that not everyone can or should be trusted with knowing about your Asperger diagnosis.  Especially if they have known you from before you were diagnosed.  I am very newly diagnosed but am finding that I should choose carefully with what I say to whom.  

    One friend, who meant well, said that he always knew I was very scientific and factual and I needed to move beyond that into being more aware and just experiencing my life with added feeling. Frankly I broke down and cried because he had clearly entirely missed the point that I wasn't capable of doing the empathy, compassion bit.  It's like saying to a blind person, just let your vision guide you.... eh?

    The comment above was from a [now ex] boyfriend.  He did a lot of complaining about a lot of things mainly along the lines of me not worshipping the ground he walked on, spending every single spare moment with him, cooking and tending to his every need without expecting him to pitch in.... and most especially answering a text message within 10 seconds.  Not sure what it was all about but he was hard work!  

    My boss received the news with confusion and I think avoided me for some time afterwards, but things are getting back to normal now.

    I went foward for diagnosis because I needed it ruled out or ruled in.  My recuring mental health issues could have been just that, health issues, or it could have stemmed from my not entirely supported childhood (with a very cold mother figure) rendering some lingering psychologiccal problem or maybe I was Asperger like my son. (or should that be the other way around??)

    So now I have my answer and I'm still waiting for it to sink in.  It is quite an emotional roller coaster.  I'm hoping it will be worth it.  At the moment I feel quite isolated and it's great to know there are 'others' out there  -  it really is.  

    Kitty x

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