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Death in the family

Caithness

My mother died just over three weeks ago, at the age of seventy-seven. She was my official carer. I am now left living with my father, who I do not get on with.

I miss having my mother to talk to. I even miss her nagging. I feel very alone without her. I wish she was here to help me deal with the rest of my family.

I want to move out as soon as possible. I have a little saving, but no income. I don't know what to do, or where to go. I feel this overwhelming need to escape. I am 47 and have been single for the last 22 years. I have ASD and a history of severe depression.

I am used to making all my decisions with my mothers help. Her funeral is on Wednesday. I wish it were over all ready.

J.

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  • You have my deepest sympathy, Caithness, and I can to a certain extent relate to this as I also lost my mom about three years ago, and it turned out to be more devastating than I had imagined. I never left home (apart from one year in 1974), so I had lived with my mom for about 74 years, and when she was no longer there, I was left without my usual emotional anchor to rely on anymore. Having said that, I think you should see this as an opportunity - an opportunity to move on to the next chapter of your life awaits, offering new and satisfying experiences if approached the right way. It won’t be easy, but anything worthwhile rarely is. At 47, you are still relatively young and have plenty of time to find happiness in life.

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  • You have my deepest sympathy, Caithness, and I can to a certain extent relate to this as I also lost my mom about three years ago, and it turned out to be more devastating than I had imagined. I never left home (apart from one year in 1974), so I had lived with my mom for about 74 years, and when she was no longer there, I was left without my usual emotional anchor to rely on anymore. Having said that, I think you should see this as an opportunity - an opportunity to move on to the next chapter of your life awaits, offering new and satisfying experiences if approached the right way. It won’t be easy, but anything worthwhile rarely is. At 47, you are still relatively young and have plenty of time to find happiness in life.

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