Issues with intimacy

Hi,

I really don't mean for this to be an inappropriate discussion. I was wondering if other people had issues with having sex and what you did about it.

I really love my boyfriend; he is the person who can get physically closest to me in the world...most people I get irritated when they stand too close to me, but I love to snuggle in his arms. Unfortunately, I have virtually no sex drive and having sex makes me feel violated, irritated, annoyed, imposed upon, and just generally as though all my space is being invaded. I don't like him even breathing near my face. 

I basically pretend I'm fine with it - he knows I have very little sex drive so we don't do it very often; but it's still annoying whenever I have to. 

I wondered if other people have any tips for managing this or making it more enjoyable?

Note: I can't express my feelings about this to him because he is such a gentleman he would probably want to stop completely, but that's not the solution I want either because he won't be happy

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  • Well... I wouldn't say I missed the point at all. I originally said all the same things as I said in my new post about Emma talking to her boyfriend and reaching an agreement where they're both happy and will both be satisfied. I just was more specific in my original moderated post. Their own happiness is more important than having plesurable, satisfying sex don't you think, especially if Emma has very little sex drive?

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  • Well... I wouldn't say I missed the point at all. I originally said all the same things as I said in my new post about Emma talking to her boyfriend and reaching an agreement where they're both happy and will both be satisfied. I just was more specific in my original moderated post. Their own happiness is more important than having plesurable, satisfying sex don't you think, especially if Emma has very little sex drive?

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