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Issues with intimacy

emma1803

Hi,

I really don't mean for this to be an inappropriate discussion. I was wondering if other people had issues with having sex and what you did about it.

I really love my boyfriend; he is the person who can get physically closest to me in the world...most people I get irritated when they stand too close to me, but I love to snuggle in his arms. Unfortunately, I have virtually no sex drive and having sex makes me feel violated, irritated, annoyed, imposed upon, and just generally as though all my space is being invaded. I don't like him even breathing near my face. 

I basically pretend I'm fine with it - he knows I have very little sex drive so we don't do it very often; but it's still annoying whenever I have to. 

I wondered if other people have any tips for managing this or making it more enjoyable?

Note: I can't express my feelings about this to him because he is such a gentleman he would probably want to stop completely, but that's not the solution I want either because he won't be happy

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    Laddo's moderated wasn't just graphic, it missed the point that good sex isn't just about putting up with it with as little bother as possible. It's about sharing each other in a pleasurable, fun act that is rewarding, satisfying and mutually gratifying.

    If it goes well then you satisfy each other and you create something special. You can't expect it to work every time but that is what you want to happen. It needs some curiosity, patience, practice and desire so it will likely get better with time

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    Laddo's moderated wasn't just graphic, it missed the point that good sex isn't just about putting up with it with as little bother as possible. It's about sharing each other in a pleasurable, fun act that is rewarding, satisfying and mutually gratifying.

    If it goes well then you satisfy each other and you create something special. You can't expect it to work every time but that is what you want to happen. It needs some curiosity, patience, practice and desire so it will likely get better with time

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