Issues with intimacy

Hi,

I really don't mean for this to be an inappropriate discussion. I was wondering if other people had issues with having sex and what you did about it.

I really love my boyfriend; he is the person who can get physically closest to me in the world...most people I get irritated when they stand too close to me, but I love to snuggle in his arms. Unfortunately, I have virtually no sex drive and having sex makes me feel violated, irritated, annoyed, imposed upon, and just generally as though all my space is being invaded. I don't like him even breathing near my face. 

I basically pretend I'm fine with it - he knows I have very little sex drive so we don't do it very often; but it's still annoying whenever I have to. 

I wondered if other people have any tips for managing this or making it more enjoyable?

Note: I can't express my feelings about this to him because he is such a gentleman he would probably want to stop completely, but that's not the solution I want either because he won't be happy

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  • I think he deserves to know your feelings on the matter; and you should not be in the position of having to engage in coitus when it makes you uncomfortable. Perhaps the relationship can be redefined so as to retain the emotional connection whilst freeing him to obtain casual sex elsewhere?

    This is a serious issue, im flagging so you can recieve support direct from NAS 

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  • I think he deserves to know your feelings on the matter; and you should not be in the position of having to engage in coitus when it makes you uncomfortable. Perhaps the relationship can be redefined so as to retain the emotional connection whilst freeing him to obtain casual sex elsewhere?

    This is a serious issue, im flagging so you can recieve support direct from NAS 

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