I can't say that I really am able to let go bmmartin2003 but moving on I am getting a bit of a hang off better these days than in my past.
Probably sounds daft but it is achieved by a certain amount of hope, belief and faith in the future on my part.
there's a sense of time marches on and trying to hold on to the present and that can be like trying to hold sand in the fist and then working like crazy to catch all that's falling out
some of it is perhaps about the "sunk cost fallacy" - which might be worth having a look at... but the truth is I still find it hellishly difficult to believe I was wrong personally - so the trick i try is to say "yep getting it wrong was just what I needed to get it right..." as I find it extremely difficult to "let go"
that said shifting focus is perhaps the way I move on myself...
probably best summed up by shifting from is the glass half full or half empty to putting it down and picking up another glass ( and no this isn't a an excuse for alcohol abuse just a metaphor!)
I can't say that I really am able to let go bmmartin2003 but moving on I am getting a bit of a hang off better these days than in my past.
Probably sounds daft but it is achieved by a certain amount of hope, belief and faith in the future on my part.
there's a sense of time marches on and trying to hold on to the present and that can be like trying to hold sand in the fist and then working like crazy to catch all that's falling out
some of it is perhaps about the "sunk cost fallacy" - which might be worth having a look at... but the truth is I still find it hellishly difficult to believe I was wrong personally - so the trick i try is to say "yep getting it wrong was just what I needed to get it right..." as I find it extremely difficult to "let go"
that said shifting focus is perhaps the way I move on myself...
probably best summed up by shifting from is the glass half full or half empty to putting it down and picking up another glass ( and no this isn't a an excuse for alcohol abuse just a metaphor!)
