Letting Go & Moving On

I’m also not able to let go or move on either. I will over ride all my basic physical needs to complete the things. I can only support myself by giving my body sensory input that I like, for example a hot bath, very dark room and silence. This rejuvenates me in a small way but yes, I cannot let go ‍️

Realizing that you only have so much energy and whatever you have become fixated on has zapped loads of that energy already. Now you can try to switch your attention onto something else, and maybe your mind will drift back many times but you can keep diverting it onto that new thing. Not easy but worthwhile.

I wish you well and hope it works.

You may find this self-help article interesting, it's for autistic/ADHD people about "getting stuck in ruminating on a problem or worry, or we can get stuck unable to start something, or to change tasks" medium.com/.../loops-of-concern-revisited-6dc81ce09bd0

I've never found a solution that works all the time. What can help is a new diversion or something I feel strongly enough to campaign/ write an email about. It's the strength of the replacement interest that helps, not particularly what it is. After I've sent the email. for example, it often loses its power over me - like ticking an item off a, 'to do' list.

I too really struggle with this, and have done for many years. If I don't understand something, it's not resolved, or there's an unfairness lingering - I don't think I ever let it go

If you ever do find a solution, I'd love to hear it!

I try to find a problem to solve usually starting by staring at the page for minutes or hours.

Eventually, my mind starts sticking to parts, until it takes over. Doesn't always work. 

Sometimes I go for a jog until I am very exhausted.

Very hot shower or baths may work as well.

Funny videos or jokes can also help.

I do suffer fixation quite badly, but do so less now than in the past.

I can't say that I really am able to let go bmmartin2003 but moving on I am getting a bit of a hang off better these days than in my past.

Probably sounds daft but it is achieved by a certain amount of hope, belief and faith in the future on my part.

there's a sense of time marches on and trying to hold on to the present and that can be like trying to hold sand in the fist and then working like crazy to catch all that's falling out

some of it is perhaps about the "sunk cost fallacy" - which might be worth having a look at...  but the truth is I still find it hellishly difficult to believe I was wrong personally - so the trick i try is to say "yep getting it wrong was just what I needed to get it right..." as I find it extremely difficult to "let go"

that said shifting focus is perhaps the way I move on myself...

probably best summed up by shifting from is the glass half full or half empty to putting it down and picking up another glass ( and no this isn't a an excuse for alcohol abuse just a metaphor!)

Cheers and all the best ;-)  bmmartin2003 

I really struggle with this, sometimes it’s such a small thing like a new recipe didn’t turn out as delicious as I’d hoped but it can bother me for so long. Partly I think it helps to tell someone what the thing that went wrong was, they can sometimes help me put it into a different perspective. I haven’t found a quick fix that will snap me out of it, I don’t know whether it’s better to fight it or just let yourself fixate until it burns out. Is it something specific or just in general?