Anxiety and Depression

All my life due to having AS i have been picked on and bullied. I kind of get depressed because i'm usually lonely since it's hard for AS people to make friends. I also get scared of paranoid of people when I go out because I think they will make fun of me, so I try and avoid going out unless I really have too :( Does anyone else have these problems?

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  • I know I can get fixated upon what amounts to deeply trivial issues.

    I know that most 'normal' people seem to be able to shrug off these things so much more easily.

    For me it drives me crazy because I can go rid in circles thinking about things that people have said or done, which seem so insignicant to anybody I mention it to, but are just deeply horrifying to me - not to sound melodramatic. Smile

    I sometimes feel it comes down to motivation, and how thoughtless people can be - I think that perhaps as a general trend, without wishing to cause any offence, autistics are simply more thoughtful and considered, their cerebral processes are more structured and meticulous and so as a downside, it can be very easy to use your own mentality as an empathetic model and infer deeply malicious and sadistic behaviour from those around you, whereas in-fact, they're simply being insensitive.

    That is my experience at-least, and I know that it has been very problematic, because something that somebody has done or said will be playing on my mind relentlessly, yet they simply continue their life obliviously, making me feel stepped-on and humiliated - and anybody I speak to such as friends will simply not be able to understand why I'm so frustrated and indignant about the whole thing.

    It was actually something along these lines which lead to my diagnosis, now I reflect upon it - being unable to function at a 'normal', acceptable level due to an intense fixation upon a sense of persecution, which while valid, was kind of overblown.

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  • I know I can get fixated upon what amounts to deeply trivial issues.

    I know that most 'normal' people seem to be able to shrug off these things so much more easily.

    For me it drives me crazy because I can go rid in circles thinking about things that people have said or done, which seem so insignicant to anybody I mention it to, but are just deeply horrifying to me - not to sound melodramatic. Smile

    I sometimes feel it comes down to motivation, and how thoughtless people can be - I think that perhaps as a general trend, without wishing to cause any offence, autistics are simply more thoughtful and considered, their cerebral processes are more structured and meticulous and so as a downside, it can be very easy to use your own mentality as an empathetic model and infer deeply malicious and sadistic behaviour from those around you, whereas in-fact, they're simply being insensitive.

    That is my experience at-least, and I know that it has been very problematic, because something that somebody has done or said will be playing on my mind relentlessly, yet they simply continue their life obliviously, making me feel stepped-on and humiliated - and anybody I speak to such as friends will simply not be able to understand why I'm so frustrated and indignant about the whole thing.

    It was actually something along these lines which lead to my diagnosis, now I reflect upon it - being unable to function at a 'normal', acceptable level due to an intense fixation upon a sense of persecution, which while valid, was kind of overblown.

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