Hi everyone,
I would welcome people's experience and thoughts around this. My son is 10 nearly 11 and has always exhibited a lot of Aspberger traits some of which are becoming more pronounced. I'm in two minds whether to take him to the GP after talking to the school. Only recently I realised that a lot of his physical quirks (windmill arms, hand flapping, constant bouncing when anxious or excited) are stimming. I recognised them as self-regulatory but now know that they are classic stimming. Small adjustments at school like moving his table send him into a sprial at home, though they don't see it at school any longer. Up to year three we would have incidences where he would throw furniture at school, but because it's a small school they have 'held' him well.
However he is extremley gifted in language, understanding nuances well in books and plays such as Shakepeare. He is also very very aware when others are distressed, and is caring towards others, particularly younger children. Because of this the school are saying they will not refer and think that he has normal behaviour, although he is a 'bit odd'. They think it's a reaction to the shift to secondary. I did however read some recent research which said Aspies were very empathetic which is why they feel so overwhelmed. Someone sent me the research who knows him well. Is this research widely known?
I'm exhausted, and my main concern is for his mental health and the distress he obviously feels so easily in a number of situations. After years my husband finally agreed to go for an assessment. However the school will not give us the support to go through Ed Psych. The school is suggesting a private counsellor for his anxiety.
I suppose what I'm asking is how long is the journey with the GP (a piece of string?), will it help to have a diagnosis, are there Aspies who are gifted in language?
Also I'd be interested in book suggestions, I read somewhere about the traffic light system, I'm very disorganised so it would be helpful to have a book that can help me structure routines for him.
Thank you for reading this.
