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Wearing sunglasses to avoid socializing

DarkElf

I like to take long walks. I like to try and get 10k steps each day. Walks are one of very few times I get true alone time and time to compartmentalize and just space out. I know it sounds arrogant, but strangers approaching me when I'm walking irritates me to no end. I don't give eye contact, I don't ever really smile but people still talk to me. It's not that I dislike people it's just this hour and a half or so is genuinely the only silence I get in a day sometimes. On walks I don't even wear t-shirts with any interests at this point. 

My friend wears sunglasses and says that helps as it gives the indication of been socially unavailable (google also said this). I tried with a cheap pair but hated how they felt on my ears (hate over ear headphones and some hats for the same reason) and I like to have full and clear visibility. Anyone here wear sunglasses to avoid socializing? Does it actually work?

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  • DarkElf said:
    Anyone here wear sunglasses to avoid socializing? Does it actually work?

    I’d say that my experiences with wearing sunglasses have been mixed. In social situations where everyone‘s wearing them, I’m not sure they make as much of a difference as when I’m wearing them, but no one else is.

    When I used to swim regularly, I certainly noticed that having goggles with mirrored lenses made people less inclined to try and speak to me during breaks from swimming. I believe it was because they couldn’t see my eyes, or where I was looking - which can be an important cue in communication.

    With sunglasses, I think the same principle can apply. Not that mirrored lenses would be needed - although I did actually choose them myself, for that reason - just a tint that’s dark enough to make your eyes harder to see. But I think it would be reasonable to expect that some people would still try to interact with you.

    In terms of getting a comfortable fit, I’d definitely recommend trying some pairs on at your local opticians. They can make any adjustments that are possible. When I used to wear prescription sunglasses, I would choose a frame from their standard range, and they’d put tinted lenses into them. So that might be an option, if you struggle to find a good or comfortable fit with any ready-made sunglasses, even with adjustments.

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  • DarkElf said:
    Anyone here wear sunglasses to avoid socializing? Does it actually work?

    I’d say that my experiences with wearing sunglasses have been mixed. In social situations where everyone‘s wearing them, I’m not sure they make as much of a difference as when I’m wearing them, but no one else is.

    When I used to swim regularly, I certainly noticed that having goggles with mirrored lenses made people less inclined to try and speak to me during breaks from swimming. I believe it was because they couldn’t see my eyes, or where I was looking - which can be an important cue in communication.

    With sunglasses, I think the same principle can apply. Not that mirrored lenses would be needed - although I did actually choose them myself, for that reason - just a tint that’s dark enough to make your eyes harder to see. But I think it would be reasonable to expect that some people would still try to interact with you.

    In terms of getting a comfortable fit, I’d definitely recommend trying some pairs on at your local opticians. They can make any adjustments that are possible. When I used to wear prescription sunglasses, I would choose a frame from their standard range, and they’d put tinted lenses into them. So that might be an option, if you struggle to find a good or comfortable fit with any ready-made sunglasses, even with adjustments.

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